Movement starts with decision.
Change starts with decision.
Creating something new starts with decision.
Decision is “Intention with legs.” When you set an intention to make changes in your life, it won’t take long for the Universe to present you with opportunities and choices to make you very clear about your direction and your desires. (And your power!)
Some of these choices will be terrifying, exciting, and totally uncomfortable. Some of them will merely be old patterns dug up from your past. Some will require that you step up in a bigger way and take a huge risk. Some will require that you let go and say, “Not so much.”
Let’s take Sylvia for instance.
Sylvia is one of my clients in my Platinum Coaching Circle. She came to our first mastermind retreat in April, scared to stand up in front of the group. She was miserable in her job. She hated where she lived. She had settled for everything in her life from her relationship to her career.
During her time in front of the group, her path became obvious. And with the encouragement of the women there, Sylvia went back home knowing it was time to make some decisions.
Now, less than three months later, Sylvia is living in Colorado – where she has always dreamed of living. (But never admitted to anyone until this year.) She attracted her ideal job. She is creating a new paradigm for herself and her life.
On our coaching call last week, she said (and I could tell she was smiling when she said it), “If you saw my new office compared to my old one, it’s so funny! I look out of these big glass windows at snow-capped mountains. At my last job, I looked out at an ugly construction site. Everything is so different now, inside and out!”
Her shift has been fast. Lightning fast. It can take your breath away.
Are we allowed to move that quickly? Absolutely!
In fact, successful people will tell you that they have learned to make decisions in the blink of an eye.
It’s tempting to think that “Yes” will bring velocity, motion, and change. But “No” creates speed as well.
In fact, Sylvia’s first decision upon returning home was to say “No” to her dead-end job. (She stopped waiting for them to make a decision to fire her.) She said “No” to the renewal on her condo lease. She said “No” to some of her relationships. Her yeses didn’t come until after she said a whole bunch of no’s.
What she stopped doing was saying “Maybe.”
People get stuck not because they don’t know what to do. People get stuck because they stop making decisions. They get stuck when they stop saying Yes or No.
They get stuck when they say “Maybe.”
“Maybe” is where we settle for things instead of choosing them.
“Maybe” is where we think we can stay safe.
“Maybe” makes people around us comfortable because we’re not threatening their status quo.
“Maybe” – whether it’s about choosing a business coach, a new job, or a pair of jeans – tells me that people are still a little afraid of their own power. “Maybe” is a way of saying, “Yea, well, I’m not sure I want to live with the consequences of my choice.”
There are times when “Maybe” is appropriate, even necessary. But “Maybe” is often just fear of making a decision.
Most of us know our Yeses and No’s. We know almost instantly. We know our passions. We know what we want. And we definitely know what we don’t want.
The stuff that comes after that instant knowing is just mental ruminating designed to keep us in one place.
My coach’s favorite mantra for making decisions in life is this: “If it’s not a Hell Yes, it’s a Hell No.”
No one ever says “Hell Maybe!”
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