You consider making your first video for your website…
…and this is the voice that pops into your head.
You think about following up with the woman you met at that event who expressed interest in working with you…
…and you hear it again.
You know you should raise your prices…
…but that same voice just keeps holding you back.
You know this voice all too well.
It’s the snarky voice in your head that likes to mouth off whenever you think about being bold, a little decadent, or more self-nurturing.
And it slings out the same six syllables that steal your mojo every time…
“Who do you think you are?”
Usually this voice doesn’t act alone. It’s a collective. It’s your worst high school nightmare mean girls mob hanging out in the smoking lounge sneering at you.
Every woman I know has her own version of this mob waiting in the wings.
Even Oprah admits that every time she wanted to achieve more, the first voice she heard was:
“Who do you think you are?”
In other words: Stay down, play small, shut up, and don’t embarrass yourself. Don’t even bother because you won’t make it, you don’t deserve it, everyone knows it, and they’ll all laugh at you when you fail.
So, next time that voice tries to rob you of your divine right to make a bold move, here’s what to do to take your mojo back…
Answer it.
Really.
Who DO you think you are?
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A little background:
Many years ago, I told my first coach about some fears coming up around a choice I was making.
I said, “…and all the voices in my head are saying, ‘Who do you think you are?’”
And he looked at me and said, “Well? Who do you think you are?”
I smiled and continued with my story.
He cut in.
“Stop! I really want to know, Christine. Who DO you think you are? Tell me right now.”
In a very tiny voice, I told him.
Then he made me say it again in a bigger, stronger voice.
And again after that.
And one more time.
He said, “There. Now you have an answer for your voices.”
And I am STILL living into the amazing results. (Thank you, Thom.)
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So, dear reader, here’s your assignment:
In the comments below, answer this question:
Who do you think you are?
Answer it AUTHENTICALLY.
Don’t get all lofty or holy on me.
Don’t get all “I’m a divine being, living in divine perfection with power and grace.”
Okay, fine.
True as that may be, if these words don’t resonate with you, you’ll never feel any bolder. And the mean high school girls will put their cigarettes out on your shoe.
Get gritty. Get granular.
Share it with the world, with the mean girls, with your family, with the snarky and the un-snarky, the Upleveled and the Downleveled…
Who do you think you are?
(And after you share your answer, I DARE you to go take that one bold step you’ve been avoiding…)
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I was lucky enough to have a “friend” get snarky with me recently and she questioned my values just before telling me to “get an identity, geez” and it pissed me off. The other thing it did was allow me to articulate with clarity who I am. So, even though I won’t be sharing anything of importance with her anytime soon, I’m grateful for the opportunity to powerfully state who I believe myself to be.
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 23rd, 2012 at 4:56 pm
K.C. — Yes, sometimes it’s good to let those people go with love and bless them for the gift they brought to us. Congratulations on turning this one around!
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How perfect Christine. After two days with you and the other amazing women proclaiming who we are (that elevator speech)…that snarky voice started in about 1 am. So thank you for asking this question. Who do I think I am? Here’s the immediate voice in my head. I am a powerful, passionate, committed woman who is changing the world with grace, compassion and humor. And yes, I am Spirit having a physical experience.
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 23rd, 2012 at 4:57 pm
You are indeed, Wendy! (And isn’t it funny how that voice loves to rear its ugly head after you’ve experienced such big breakthroughs??)
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Not something I’m comfortable doing, but here goes:
“I’m a wonderful, brilliant, self-assured, caring and considerate woman and can achieve anything I set my mind to”.
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 23rd, 2012 at 4:57 pm
Go Trish!
Now, here’s your homework. Say this aloud 5 times every morning before you get in the shower.
AND – say it one time a day TO someone who asks what you do!
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I have laser vision when it comes to examining your branding, identity and communications materials. I can spot weaknesses quickly and work with you to discover the value you bring to your clients and how to communicate it best to the people you want to reach.
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 23rd, 2012 at 4:58 pm
Love this Alexandre!
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Christine, I am so incredibly grateful for “who you are”. You inform and inspire me and I love reading your emails. Thank you so much. Yarrow
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 23rd, 2012 at 4:58 pm
You are most welcome, Yarrow!
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I am someone who KNOWS HER SHIT and has something HUGE to offer to new moms and their families!
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 24th, 2012 at 12:31 pm
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Thank you for the post! I recently shot a video, and had to silence the “who do you think you are voice” to get it done and uploaded. So who am I? I am a creative, enthusiastic, bold entrepreneur helping women and their families improve their health and happiness.
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 24th, 2012 at 12:31 pm
That’s great Stephanie! And congrats on doing the video!
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I am an expert in dispute resolution who passionately supports the wisdom of parties to solve problems, mend relationships, and craft hopeful futures for themselves, for their families, and for their communities through the use of negotiation, mediation, and other dispute resolution processes. I teach the next generation of lawyers to skillfully use these processes to offer clients safe, effective, and affordable ways to solve problems. I write extensively on these topics.
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 24th, 2012 at 12:56 pm
Paula – Wow! You are extraordinary!
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Thanks, Christine, I think I needed this today! That self doubt comes running in and I lose myself in it. So, here goes…
I am a skilled forensic genealogist, I reconnect families, both living and dead, and I know my stuff!
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 24th, 2012 at 12:56 pm
Go Leslie! (I especially like the “I know my stuff” at the end!)
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Yes, Christine… my voice hits me in the wee hours of the night. I answer with my truth: I am a passionate woman on a mission to help other women find their “SweetSpot” for on-purpose living with clarity, meaning, performance and balance. I’m stepping up and honoring the “big” me, not the “little” one. Thanks! xo
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 24th, 2012 at 12:57 pm
That’s awesome, Alix! And so clear!
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I am a conduit for love and a woman who is committed to continually getting “too big for her spiritual and financial britches!” I am a weight coach who provides calm in the chaos of weight loss chatter. I help successful women stop struggling with food and their weight for good. Oh, and we LAUGH a lot while doing it.
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 24th, 2012 at 1:06 pm
Melissa — The LAUGH part… very important!!!
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Last week I stepped up to someone else’s challenge to claim who I am and wrote a post for my blog, Transformational Editor, claiming I am a Writer. And I am a Peacemaker. I coach people in both areas to find their joy in claiming and being who they really are. Being both Writer and Peacemaker together becomes easier every day. Thank you for challenging us to ignore those voices that hold us back from being our wonderful best selves.
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I am a brilliant coach in high-demand. Thanks Christine!
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 24th, 2012 at 1:01 pm
go janelle! We so missed you at the mastermind this week!
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I’m still locked in fear – it goes way back – but I’m trying to work through it with all of Christine’s motivational seminars…
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I am Jennifer with all her smarts, charms, beauty and lovable idiosyncracies that make me unforgettable. I just live being me.
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 25th, 2012 at 1:22 pm
Rock on Jennifer!
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I am a women’s fitness expert.
I build fit females from the inside out.
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 24th, 2012 at 1:07 pm
Big LIKE on this one Rachel!
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I am an inspiring art educator who helps kids and adults find their passion for art, their unique voice, and how to use the arts to heal themselves.
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I’m a website designer helping my clients and their coaching businesses look good and make money online. I’m great at helping them understand the different elements of an online business and explaining techie stuff in their language. As a former coach of many years I don’t just create their website I coach them through the marketing side of their business too.
I’ve signed up to UYB and really looking forward to working with you, Christine, and getting to know everyone else on the programme.
Yours in divine perfection…
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 25th, 2012 at 1:21 pm
Marion — (I love your Gravatar photo btw. Really stands out!)
I’m VERY excited to help you in Uplevel your Business! You’re super clear – and you have all the goods to make this happen huge!
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I had to sleep on this because I had no idea how to answer it. Here’s what came to me: I am a hypnotherapist who creates safe spaces for you to explore your true self with compassion and curiosity. I am a nutritionist who listens to you and helps you explore dietary changes to feel your best. And I am a gluten-free guru, navigating the tricky world of allergen-free baking so that you don’t have to.
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 25th, 2012 at 1:23 pm
Iris – that’s great!
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I am a master thought changer, paradigm shifter passionate about helping you breakthrough limiting beliefs to achieve your professional and personal goals with integrity.
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 25th, 2012 at 1:23 pm
Nneka… ooooooo. i like this. being a “master thought changer.” very cool.
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I’m a clinical hypnotherapist specializing in exorcism. I help others remove negative energy that isn’t theirs. I possess information and skills that just about every person on the planet needs and I make the world a lighter place through compassion, love and a wicked sense of humor.
Thanks for the opportunity, Christine.
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Christine Kane Reply:
May 25th, 2012 at 1:24 pm
You’re welcome Wendy – and rock on .This is great.
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I am an amazing artist whose work is continually challenging the notion of what great art is.
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I’m the ideas person; the one to generate creative solutions to meet my clients’ needs.
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Christine..Im so glad i had dinner and hung out with you in San Jose with BB gang!!!…so here it goes:..Im one hot sexy loving bitch…!!! a powerful loving giving energy that lives to dance…grow..mentor and be a student. I change lives with my informative upbeat insanity of passion with my makeup business, seminars and now becoming the HD Glam Diva for Video…..Im in love with what YOU say and do!!..Im a CK Fan all the way baby!!!!!… ( ok..breath…you got me going chika..:)..I help woman get their groove on!!!
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I am a cool Home Ec teacher!
Christine, thank you for reminding me that I’ve been holding back on certain pieces of my vision, afraid that people wouldn’t “get it.” I can’t wait to stop treading water and start being in action!
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I’m a student about to graduate from college with a degree in Microbiology, I’m not afraid of where this life will take me, I am a activator very futuristic and I hope my positiveness can touch whoever I meet! Whoo!
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