Today marks the beginning of a five-week e-Seminar I’m leading. It’s called The Great Big Dreams e-Seminar. And on our opening day, each participant will commit to being complaint-free, criticism-free, whine-free, and gossip-free for the full five weeks of the course. That’s 35 days, baby!
I’m doing it too.
Many a success guru, spiritual teacher, and business coach have recommended going complaint-free for at least 21 days. That’s because, according to experts, it takes 21-days to form a new habit. And now, it’s sweeping the world in bracelet form because of a book called A Complaint-Free World.
Though I have yet to make it through a full 21-days without a complaint, I know that this time’s a winner for me. I made myself sign the contract I sent out to participants. Of course, there’s no punishment if you don’t make it. As Edwene Gaines says in her Alabama accent, “And honey, it’s okay if you get 15 days into it, and then you forget. You just correct yourself, recognize you complained, and then start over at day number one again.”
Here are 10 Irresistible Reasons to Go Complaint-Free Starting Today:
1 – When you’re complaint-free, you learn to find solutions rather than staying mucked in the problem.
If you don’t offer yourself the option of complaining, then you might start training your brain to actually find solutions and get ideas. As Maya Angelou says, “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.”
2 – When you’re complaint-free, you shrink your ego.
Complaining builds your ego. It makes your ego stronger because it makes someone or something else wrong. And it makes you right. You become inflated and puffed up. Well, actually you don’t, but your ego does. Ceasing the complaining/criticizing/gossiping habit tells your ego that you are in charge, and that you want to create new habits.
3 – When you’re complaint free for 21-Days, you’ve started a new habit and created a new you.
4 – When you’re complaint-free, it’s a conversation starter.
Imaginary scenario: Someone rushes into your office to gossip or whine. You get to simply smile and say, “Gosh, you know, I’d love to join in, but I’m in the middle of a Complaint-free Contract. Would you like to look at it?” And the person says, “Huh? What’s that?” Then you get to propel the conversation in a different direction.
5 – When you’re complaint-free, it’s a conversation deepener.
That same person who rushes into your office will listen for a while and then say, “Wow, that’s a really great idea. I always notice how easy it is to complain, and I want to be more self-responsible…” You’ll then share a deeper connection when you each admit that you want to live more happy and focused lives.
6 – When you’re complaint-free, it becomes viral.
You start attracting more positive people to you. The negative people will walk away and just think you’re a complete moron. But then, you’ll start noticing positive curious people coming into your life because you are so much fun to be around.
7 – When you’re complaint-free, you banish lazy thinking.
Think about it – you can’t get much lazier than complaining and gossiping. It’s the same well-worn neural pathway you’ve trudged down day after day, along with 85% of the population. When you’re complaint-free, you find other things on which to focus. With alertness and alacrity, you find new ways of seeing things. (And you get to use words like “alacrity.”)
8 – When you’re complaint-free, you create happiness.
9 – When you’re complaint free with a group, you get to soar on the updraft of the great group energy.
When groups work together – even only on the level of intention – magic happens. It’s why people love Mastermind groups. It’s why I invite people to join in on the retreat prayer lists. You allow effortlessness when you link up with a group of like-minded people. Join us today and create a cool updraft and all kinds of good things happen.