Click here to view Part 1. Here are the last four ways to become un-hookable:
6 – Quit Whining and Complaining!
One of the easiest things to change is your behavior and how you show up in your world. Whining and complaining are victim activities. As Maya Angelou put it: “Whining is not only graceless, but it can be dangerous. It can alert a brute that a victim is in the neighborhood.” Well put.
Complaining says, “I am not responsible. I am not powerful.” And, as said on Seinfeld, that’s a pretty big matzo ball hanging out there, George.
Remember this: what you put your attention on grows. Even if you’re complaining that you don’t want this thing, you’re still putting your attention on it and attracting it to you.
If you need to whine, or have to have a moment of all-out complaining, always put a container around it. Tell the listener, “Give me five minutes and no more. Then I want you to help me find other ways to look at this.”
7 – Surround yourself with un-hookable people
Other un-hookable conscious people will encourage you to shift old patterns. Being around that influence will help you model your own behavior. Also, they will be less likely to allow you to fall for the usual hooks.
If you don’t know where to go to find people like this, be patient. As you work on these other steps, you’ll begin to attract healthier people into your world.
8 – Immerse yourself
Read about this stuff. Click on this sentence to view my Reading List. I wrote little comments underneath every book, so you can get a feel for if that book appeals to you. Get some of those books. There are lots of great resources out there. If you don’t yet have some people in your life who are un-hookable or at least working on it, then find authors, speakers and blogs that start your day with a consciousness boost. Write your intents on index cards and read them daily. Listen to audiobooks as you drive. You can get them at your library. I’ve mentioned audible.com too. I love audible.com. (Click on the sidebar link.)
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9 – Meditate and Pray
Meditation is the focused practice of being present and aware. The more you practice it, the more this practice infiltrates your every moment, and the less likely you are to react and get hooked. This is cumulative. Start slowly. 10 minutes is a great start. Do it once at the beginning of the day, and then again at the end of the day.
Don’t let the icky fundamentalists scare you away from prayer. They don’t own the idea. I’m convinced that prayer is the biggest reason I got over bulimia and became a songwriter against so many odds. There’s no right way to pray. Begin where you are. I use a lot of affirmative prayer. I also call on angels and spirit guides and other divine energies. (Truly, it’s like a committee meeting by the time I’ve finished.) I let them know my intents. I let them know what’s hooking me and where I’d like to be instead. It always helps.
One final thought. The topic of being hookable was inspired by a talk Barbara Waterhouse gave. She talked about being “gettable.” She framed it in a context of getting robbed, getting taken, getting ripped off. She encouraged her audience to watch their own beliefs and take full responsibility for attracting everything into their lives. One of the points she made that always sticks with me was this: Remember — if someone can make you either angry or scared, then you are giving them your power. It’s annoying to realize this at times, but when you really check in about it, it’s always true!