Comments on: 6 Irresistible Reasons to Stop Explaining Yourself http://christinekane.com/blog/6-irresistible-reasons-to-stop-explaining-yourself/ Be Creative. Be Conscious. Be Courageous. Tue, 16 Mar 2010 12:46:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Elaine http://christinekane.com/blog/6-irresistible-reasons-to-stop-explaining-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-292008 Elaine Sat, 17 Oct 2009 20:29:45 +0000 http://christinekane.com/?p=2031#comment-292008 I just read this in the newsletter I put aside 4 days ago so I could read it in peace. I'm glad I did. It hit the nail on the head. Thanks for the reminder Christine. I just read this in the newsletter I put aside 4 days ago so I could read it in peace. I’m glad I did. It hit the nail on the head.

Thanks for the reminder Christine.

]]> By: Cirkla Notes » Blog Archive » Hump Day Hero #9 Christine Kane http://christinekane.com/blog/6-irresistible-reasons-to-stop-explaining-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-270399 Cirkla Notes » Blog Archive » Hump Day Hero #9 Christine Kane Wed, 15 Jul 2009 17:02:57 +0000 http://christinekane.com/?p=2031#comment-270399 [...] I stopped back in (thanks to the beauty of Google Reader) and read her blog post about the 6 Irresistable Reasons to Stop Explaining Yourself and I was hooked. What an amazing resource she is! The more I poked around, the more I liked [...] [...] I stopped back in (thanks to the beauty of Google Reader) and read her blog post about the 6 Irresistable Reasons to Stop Explaining Yourself and I was hooked. What an amazing resource she is! The more I poked around, the more I liked [...]

]]> By: Amy Jewell / Cirklagirl http://christinekane.com/blog/6-irresistible-reasons-to-stop-explaining-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-267527 Amy Jewell / Cirklagirl Sat, 04 Jul 2009 15:14:11 +0000 http://christinekane.com/?p=2031#comment-267527 Christine, This is amazing. You are so right on the money with this stuff and have given me much to think about! THank you so much for writing this! Christine,

This is amazing. You are so right on the money with this stuff and have given me much to think about! THank you so much for writing this!

]]> By: Cirkla Notes » Blog Archive » I Am Accountable to No One http://christinekane.com/blog/6-irresistible-reasons-to-stop-explaining-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-267525 Cirkla Notes » Blog Archive » I Am Accountable to No One Sat, 04 Jul 2009 15:13:02 +0000 http://christinekane.com/?p=2031#comment-267525 [...] was reading Christine Kane’s blog post the other day, 6 Irresistable Reasons to Stop Explaining Yourself, and it reminded me of my experiences with Landmark Forum years ago.  Christine’s is right [...] [...] was reading Christine Kane’s blog post the other day, 6 Irresistable Reasons to Stop Explaining Yourself, and it reminded me of my experiences with Landmark Forum years ago.  Christine’s is right [...]

]]> By: Paula G http://christinekane.com/blog/6-irresistible-reasons-to-stop-explaining-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-266429 Paula G Tue, 30 Jun 2009 17:31:59 +0000 http://christinekane.com/?p=2031#comment-266429 Love this post. Takes courage and confidence to take on the no explaining challenge though. I find most folks (me included) when they do explain it is because they are lacking some sort of confidence in their own choice, decision, or self. Otherwise it'd just be "here's my choice" and no further drama. I'd be curious... what is your take on the distinction between explaining and say elaborating on value. Example - small business owner makes a proposal for work. Client has questions and is maybe hemming and hawwing on price (a little, not a total shopping only on price, see ya later client, but just more curious) --- what is the distinction between the small business owner who 1) feels bad, desperate, etc. and tries to explain it away or even bargain down versus 2) the small business owner who is fully confident in the value and wants to demonstrate that to the client so they will hopefully say yes. Anyway -- just a scenario that I thought would be fun to toss around in discussion.. Love this post. Takes courage and confidence to take on the no explaining challenge though. I find most folks (me included) when they do explain it is because they are lacking some sort of confidence in their own choice, decision, or self. Otherwise it’d just be “here’s my choice” and no further drama.

I’d be curious… what is your take on the distinction between explaining and say elaborating on value. Example – small business owner makes a proposal for work. Client has questions and is maybe hemming and hawwing on price (a little, not a total shopping only on price, see ya later client, but just more curious) — what is the distinction between the small business owner who 1) feels bad, desperate, etc. and tries to explain it away or even bargain down versus 2) the small business owner who is fully confident in the value and wants to demonstrate that to the client so they will hopefully say yes.

Anyway — just a scenario that I thought would be fun to toss around in discussion..

]]> By: Deborah Wolfe http://christinekane.com/blog/6-irresistible-reasons-to-stop-explaining-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-266322 Deborah Wolfe Mon, 29 Jun 2009 22:52:34 +0000 http://christinekane.com/?p=2031#comment-266322 OMG I am SUCH an 'explainer'. Or should I say, I am a reforming explainer. Let me explain how good I've gotten at not explaining....doh....wait, that would be explaining, wouldn't it? OMG I am SUCH an ‘explainer’. Or should I say, I am a reforming explainer. Let me explain how good I’ve gotten at not explaining….doh….wait, that would be explaining, wouldn’t it?

]]> By: Charlotte B. DeMolay http://christinekane.com/blog/6-irresistible-reasons-to-stop-explaining-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-266300 Charlotte B. DeMolay Mon, 29 Jun 2009 19:53:51 +0000 http://christinekane.com/?p=2031#comment-266300 I wish I had read this last Fall, it would have saved me a lot of wasted time & anguish. I had been wrestling with a big, life-changing decision for a couple of months & I was waiting for my husband to "approve" and give me "permission" to do it. While he was not opposed, it was going to disrupt his life enough that he wasn't gung ho. When I finally realized it was ultimately MY choice..both of us felt better when I made it. I felt good about the decision and it has caused me to not rely on my husband so much for approval. I feel better about myself and he even said it took a lot of pressure off of him. I wish I had read this last Fall, it would have saved me a lot of wasted time & anguish. I had been wrestling with a big, life-changing decision for a couple of months & I was waiting for my husband to “approve” and give me “permission” to do it. While he was not opposed, it was going to disrupt his life enough that he wasn’t gung ho. When I finally realized it was ultimately MY choice..both of us felt better when I made it.

I felt good about the decision and it has caused me to not rely on my husband so much for approval. I feel better about myself and he even said it took a lot of pressure off of him.

]]> By: Lori Havrilla http://christinekane.com/blog/6-irresistible-reasons-to-stop-explaining-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-266281 Lori Havrilla Mon, 29 Jun 2009 17:01:55 +0000 http://christinekane.com/?p=2031#comment-266281 Thank you so much for this post. I've been wanting to get a tattoo since I was 40. I'll be 47 this year and still haven't gotten hubby's approval. Oh well, I say. I think he's just going to be surprised with my birthday gift to myself. --Lori Thank you so much for this post. I’ve been wanting to get a tattoo since I was 40. I’ll be 47 this year and still haven’t gotten hubby’s approval. Oh well, I say. I think he’s just going to be surprised with my birthday gift to myself. –Lori

]]> By: Jane http://christinekane.com/blog/6-irresistible-reasons-to-stop-explaining-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-266105 Jane Sun, 28 Jun 2009 20:36:20 +0000 http://christinekane.com/?p=2031#comment-266105 Christine-- Steve has been following your blog and shared this Explainer post with me. We were discussing the fact that Sam, who is now studying Musical Theater at Carnegie Mellon, has been criticized by Steve's dad. It brought up the exact same injury as when Steve was not permitted to attend Berklee, as recommended by his guitar teacher. The clarity of your post and the generosity of the way you share it inspires me as a parent, artist and teacher. Thank you! Hope to catch you in person whenever you tour the north east! Peace in mud and rain, Jane ps it has been 10 years since you did our living room birthday concert! Christine–
Steve has been following your blog and shared this Explainer post with me. We were discussing the fact that Sam, who is now studying Musical Theater at Carnegie Mellon, has been criticized by Steve’s dad. It brought up the exact same injury as when Steve was not permitted to attend Berklee, as recommended by his guitar teacher.
The clarity of your post and the generosity of the way you share it inspires me as a parent, artist and teacher.
Thank you! Hope to catch you in person whenever you tour the north east!
Peace in mud and rain,
Jane
ps it has been 10 years since you did our living room birthday concert!

]]> By: Alison Lee http://christinekane.com/blog/6-irresistible-reasons-to-stop-explaining-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-265979 Alison Lee Sun, 28 Jun 2009 04:19:55 +0000 http://christinekane.com/?p=2031#comment-265979 Love love love the insight on this one. Hit home for me tonight! xo ~Alison Love love love the insight on this one. Hit home for me tonight!
xo
~Alison

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