Comments on: Avoidance is Not a Game Plan

By: 5 Large Lessons of 2009 | Christine Kane

5 Large Lessons of 2009 | Christine Kane — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 04:07:19 +0000

[...] since learned that avoidance is not a game plan. Neither is [...]

By: amanda@choosing-life-my-way.com

amanda@choosing-life-my-way.com — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 05:34:27 +0000

I love the points you make at the end. We definitely need to be willing to step out of our comfort zones, or we will remain trapped by fear and habit. Great read

By: Leslie

Leslie — Sat, 02 May 2009 07:28:46 +0000

Hey Christine! Thanks once again for the inspiration. I just wanted to let you know that I’ve put you on my list of favorite creative bloggers. You and your blog are great supports in helping me CREATE my life.

http://stitchingbuddha.wordpress.com/2009/05/02/kreativ-blogger-award/

By: Mary C-D

Mary C-D — Fri, 01 May 2009 16:29:09 +0000

As a professional writer, I wanted to comment on a line in your post from “Sylvia,”but please accept this as a gentle observation and not a critique of what is obviously of deep concern for her – “I don’t want to be driven when it comes to writing.” There is an age-old truth about writing. You don’t get inspired and then sit down and write. You sit down, come to the page or the screen, work though your hesitation, your concern about your abilities, the health of your children and pets, the deadly rays surely emanating from your computer screen, etc., etc, etc., and you do drive on through until, once in a while, the inspiration comes. To be a writer is to drive on through, whether you feel like it or not. That’s how the words get formed into sentences and paragraphs and essays and stories and books and blogs. To quote that great philosopher Ringo Starr, “It don’t come easy, you know it don’t come easy….”
An excellent book on the subject is “Seven Steps on the Writer’s Path: The Journey from Frustration to Fulfillment” by Nancy Pickard and Lynn Lott.

By: Paula G | Comfortable in Your Own Skin Coach

Paula G | Comfortable in Your Own Skin Coach — Fri, 01 May 2009 13:20:48 +0000

Great post. Really hits home. The other thing with avoidance is it is a convenient excuse for allowing us to stay exactly where we are and then later on go “see, I told you I couldn’t have what I wanted”. We make ourselves right in our self-limiting story (usually drawn up from the past) when we indulge in the avoidance.

By: Lauren Ebbecke

Lauren Ebbecke — Fri, 01 May 2009 00:24:53 +0000

Christine-

Great Article! Yes, the past can certainly cause havoc on our future dreams and goals! Avoidance is definitely not a game plan. I plan on eating healthy and backing off the chocolate, not avoiding it!!!:)

By: Marie

Marie — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 14:43:19 +0000

I really didn’t see this example as an example of fear holding her back. I saw possible burnout (if you push yourself so hard that you have nothing left to give for a while, then pushing again on a new project – while on empty – will be miserable and futile). I also saw possibly valid questions about a goal – why push for something you don’t really want? I say that I want to write, and I don’t do it, but I put enormous energy into another type of work where I do succeed. Apparently I don’t really want to write very much at all (and I do want to do the other kind of work). I don’t think that I fear writing, I think that the other kind of work that I do is just clearly and enormously more important to me (and I value and respect it more).

By: Sue

Sue — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 22:26:11 +0000

Hi Christine,

This post hit close to home. I have always had a fear of driving and it became worse when I had an accident and was sued four years ago. A year after that, I started fearing the worst (that I would hit someone) and avoided driving completely and lost my independence. I recently started getting back on the wheels, although it’s been a slow recovery! I will remember this post whenever I think about avoiding driving. But it’s scary though! Thanks for this great post. Your posts have been truly inspirational!

By: stacey

stacey — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 17:42:21 +0000

Christine,
I am with Marrissa on this one… I could have written this post many times, except for the part where you moved it forward. It’s been 12 years for me, being binge/purge free, but I still think of myself as bulimic… In my own mind, I think it keeps me from relapse… but your example couldn’t prove how wrong I am… moving forward is so much healthier than staying “bulimic”. Thanks again for your inspiration!

By: Giulietta

Giulietta — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 14:39:41 +0000

Thanks Christine,

Super post. Yes, the key is to walk toward the brilliant light of avoidance. It holds the key to a fabulous life.

Giulietta
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