Comments on: Getting Rid of Your Ego: A Personal Story

By: Viv

Viv — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 20:28:43 +0000

Valuable information here- just what I needed to read right now. Thanks. I find it helpful to think of my ego as my 2-year old self needing constant attention and affirmation. I still love that childlike part of myself but am thankful that it doesn’t have to rule my life! If it did I would be a most disturbed person. Adults have access to a much wider range of responses, thankfully.

By: Fearless Dreams

Fearless Dreams — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 20:17:37 +0000

Thanks for the heartfelt post.

It’s all about action.

We will never reach perfection, but we can move toward it.

We get there by facing ourselves as we are and taking action.

Joel

By: Colin

Colin — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 14:21:12 +0000

“…and to get back at anyone who ever hurt her.” This motivation is much more prevalent in many peoples lives than they will admit. Insightful and well done. Also, the post that Mark did should not be taken lightly. He is taking a look at something in a way that could brand him a cynic, but I don’t believe he is at all. ‘Buyer beware’ is not a cynical, foolish, or narrow-minded approach to those who would seek to guide you (if you’ve enough money to buy all the books, programs, and seminars)to enlightnment in your spiritual growth. In fact, it’s prudent, especially in an age where the quasi-philosophical, psuedo-spiritual guruship reaps such obscene wealth. Be very careful who you put in charge of your heart and soul, eh? This is not a bashing of Tolle or Oprah necessarily, just a warning from a stranger to, as one fellow said, “Trust…then verify”.

By: m

Thu, 10 Apr 2008 10:58:13 +0000

One of my students who had studied transpersonal psychology pointed out that she had always had a problem with the getting rid of the ego thing because as a woman she felt that most women don’t have enough ego while men have it in abundance. I think there is an gender issue here and I agree with her. I like the idea that your ego can be a helpful part.

By: tre ~

tre ~ — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 06:50:17 +0000

hey friend…cool topic to cover again…the more i accept my whole self, the less i’m walking around part angel, part demon…just tre.
and the more i refrain from bad patterns habits of acting a victim/need to be parented, the more free i feel of the negative ego stuff.
i’m ever striving to rid self will and self justification….pretty much anything whose prefix is a self. but i didn’t start running as a baby…and blogs like yours hold hands with all of us to affirm this is a journey.
sunny tropics welcome you again whenever you can soar south again…always thanks for your compassion and genuine nurturing of your readers as you extend vital lessons….be well and peace to you….tre

By: Dee

Dee — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 05:21:56 +0000

Hi Christine,

you certainly DO inspire with your music and blogs… Ego or No Ego I find your work excellent… keep touching the world!

By: Christine Kane

Christine Kane — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 20:49:03 +0000

Well, it’s definitely interesting to see everyone’s experience with and take on this topic. And deb – thanks for reminding me about that post. When I perform and when I write songs (and blogs), I am so in the moment that the ego is just gone. The feeling is so freakin’ amazing. I think that’s why performers love what they do. (and athletes, and massage therapists, etc) When the ego steps aside, you finally get to be YOU.

By: ChickiePam

ChickiePam — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 17:03:50 +0000

Hi there,
This whole ego thing…. I have not tried to “get rid of” my ego. I do not see my ego as a “bad” thing. I will admit that I went there at first, but what I got loud and clear is that if there is only one universal mind, only on spirit, only one… period. Then my ego is a part of that one, as well. Now, do I want to live in my ego wants and needs? Nope. I’d like to think that I can be spiritual at least SOME of the time! So I’ve just been noticing and listening to the chatter and just trying to have fun with it. Laugh about it. Mostly I think we can take much of this just too dang seriously. I am old enough that I want to have fun here. I have had a life full of challenges. My choice is to live out loud and to enjoy the rest of the time I have here. I’ve done my fair share of wallowing and fearing and doubting and guilting. I still go there more than I’d like to, but I’m focusing more on the now moment. I bought the Power of Now from Aubible.com and am about to start reading that. I like on the webcast when Eckard gets tickled and starts to chuckle. Oprah brings that out in him, I think.

I love the post about Matilda! That is actually one of my favorite names in the world. I almost named one of my daughters that just so I could call her Tilly!

Thank you for yet another inspiration post.
Pam

By: Pat K.

Pat K. — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 13:01:45 +0000

Love the post. For me listening to a combination of Eckhart and Pema Chodron (and about a million other little lessons along the way) have taught me that leaning INTO the ego-ic feelings/bad feelings/pain, and NOT acting on them, and getting comfortable with that spot of feeling yet non-action, is where you learn to open up. It does seem that the light of consciousness burns up the ego. But the ego is a wily creature and will keep sticking it’s nose into our business. Once that first light of consciousness has shined in on it, the ego is no longer in control. Oh it will keep coming back again and again, when you least expect it. But now you can say to it, “oh, there’s my ego again. Now look what it wants me to do/say/be. Well, now isn’t that cute.” and just let it go. Yes, you have to keep doing that again and again, until the ego is totally burned up. For me personally, I catch the ego just seconds after it has appeared, but it is happening more and more quickly. It is a VERY interesting project.

To comment one posters note, I don’t think any of the people who’s books I read are either wearing white flowing robes or are “perfectly enlightened,” they are very much human beings like us who have simply found the path, may be a bit further ahead on it than we are, and are simply better at explaining it to us in everyday terms. That is what I like about the two spiritual teachers I list above. Much like Richard Feynman or Carl Sagan, they can talk to the common folk and be totally understood, and are refreshing to listen to.

Pat

By: Imelda/GreenishLady

Imelda/GreenishLady — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 22:29:34 +0000

Thank you for saying this. It makes eminent sense! I’ve read the first chapter of Tolle’s book, but haven’t rushed on to read the next part. I will, but with attention. When I’m ready. I’m glad to see another perspective.