Comments on: Is Upheaval Required for Personal Growth? http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/ Be Creative. Be Conscious. Be Courageous. Sun, 14 Mar 2010 12:19:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Christine Kane http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/comment-page-1/#comment-79634 Christine Kane Tue, 22 Jan 2008 18:34:53 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/#comment-79634 thanks deb! i go through the same "oh yea!" process of being reminded, too. it even happens as i write a post like this... michelle - this is totally going to be your own call. if it nags at you -- then that's the question "is your life speaking to you?" you can make a choice -- i would just encourage that it be a conscious choice - not just letting it go on and nag you. thanks for the additional thoughts beth! thanks deb! i go through the same “oh yea!” process of being reminded, too. it even happens as i write a post like this…

michelle – this is totally going to be your own call. if it nags at you — then that’s the question “is your life speaking to you?” you can make a choice — i would just encourage that it be a conscious choice – not just letting it go on and nag you.

thanks for the additional thoughts beth!

]]> By: Beth http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/comment-page-1/#comment-79610 Beth Tue, 22 Jan 2008 14:40:50 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/#comment-79610 Thank you for sharing this! And to everyone who has left comments!! It underscores one of the things I share with others -- we are all on a hero's journey, and we will all have the choice to refuse to move toward our true calling, or to face the challenges and trials that show us where we need to grow, and gives us the practice to do the growing! *grin* Sure, it can be tough at times....been there many times myself. But that *is*, after all, what being a hero in our life's story is all about. Thank you for sharing this! And to everyone who has left comments!! It underscores one of the things I share with others — we are all on a hero’s journey, and we will all have the choice to refuse to move toward our true calling, or to face the challenges and trials that show us where we need to grow, and gives us the practice to do the growing! *grin* Sure, it can be tough at times….been there many times myself. But that *is*, after all, what being a hero in our life’s story is all about.

]]> By: Michelle http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/comment-page-1/#comment-79007 Michelle Fri, 18 Jan 2008 18:12:16 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/#comment-79007 What if something has been nagging at you as not quite right in a relaationship - a habit - ohhhh let's say a little smoking habit - just feels so wrong to you. You went into the relationship knowing about it. It's been 8 years and it still nags at you at the strangest times, "is this where I am supposed to be?" BUT the catch is everything else about the relationship is stellar. How do you know? We know we can't change others....ahh your posts always make me reflect....thanks for that! What if something has been nagging at you as not quite right in a relaationship – a habit – ohhhh let’s say a little smoking habit – just feels so wrong to you. You went into the relationship knowing about it. It’s been 8 years and it still nags at you at the strangest times, “is this where I am supposed to be?” BUT the catch is everything else about the relationship is stellar. How do you know? We know we can’t change others….ahh your posts always make me reflect….thanks for that!

]]> By: deb http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/comment-page-1/#comment-78903 deb Thu, 17 Jan 2008 22:58:50 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/#comment-78903 I cannot begin to tell you how perfect this post is for me right now. It's so dead-on that I'm amazed. I've been thrown into upheaval before. I'm in upheaval again, but on a less dramatic scale and of my own choosing. I'd forgotten these insights that you shared here. It's good to be reminded. Thank you! All the best! deb I cannot begin to tell you how perfect this post is for me right now. It’s so dead-on that I’m amazed. I’ve been thrown into upheaval before. I’m in upheaval again, but on a less dramatic scale and of my own choosing. I’d forgotten these insights that you shared here. It’s good to be reminded.
Thank you!
All the best!
deb

]]> By: Christine Kane http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/comment-page-1/#comment-78899 Christine Kane Thu, 17 Jan 2008 21:28:56 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/#comment-78899 Very pertinent and insightful points Susie! Thanks! Very pertinent and insightful points Susie! Thanks!

]]> By: Susie Monday http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/comment-page-1/#comment-78898 Susie Monday Thu, 17 Jan 2008 21:23:41 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/#comment-78898 I'm not sure upheaval is necessary, but in some situations, if you don't make some bold changes, you stay stuck -- as they say--rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic. To affect change, you gotta be doing something different than what you've been doing, and we all only have the same 24 hours a day to fill. Upheaval serves to clear the time, force new choices. BUT, sometimes one can make dramatic progress in living a more authentic life in 15 minute increments. Just trying that something new for 15 minutes a day, "acting like." Leaving a husband or a job can just be a dramatic choice that makes it feel like you've done something for yourself, but what you do after the upheaval is more important. I've seen people make some dramatic changes only to end up (like Thelma and Louise) driving off the side of a cliff, rather than doing the perhaps boring, little, day-by-day healing and self actualization that was really needed. I’m not sure upheaval is necessary, but in some situations, if you don’t make some bold changes, you stay stuck — as they say–rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic. To affect change, you gotta be doing something different than what you’ve been doing, and we all only have the same 24 hours a day to fill. Upheaval serves to clear the time, force new choices. BUT, sometimes one can make dramatic progress in living a more authentic life in 15 minute increments. Just trying that something new for 15 minutes a day, “acting like.” Leaving a husband or a job can just be a dramatic choice that makes it feel like you’ve done something for yourself, but what you do after the upheaval is more important. I’ve seen people make some dramatic changes only to end up (like Thelma and Louise) driving off the side of a cliff, rather than doing the perhaps boring, little, day-by-day healing and self actualization that was really needed.

]]> By: Christine Kane http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/comment-page-1/#comment-78892 Christine Kane Thu, 17 Jan 2008 19:48:02 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/#comment-78892 Thank you Chris and Helen! Elaine - You go girl! Great metaphor, Joy! Dave - #1 - I wonder if you're really asking "how can I trigger change without going through too much discomfort?" If not, then all I can advise on this is that you begin by becoming aware of what is causing you to want to change? Since all things are connected, if you start focusing on that one area (i.e. career), then other things will start to fall in line. (Or fall apart, as the case may be!) I wouldn't necessarily "seek out" upheaval. As to #2 - One of the things I advise in my e-Seminars is to immerse yourself in better perspectives. Audiobooks, books, seminars, etc - you need support. That's for sure. Meditation and prayer and daily walks as well. #3 -- I don't believe that you can just "find" courage. As I've written about in this blog in so many posts - courage is not the absence of fear -- and courage gets built by doing scary things and learning how brilliant you are in the process! (Or at least that you are resilient!) Thanks Colin. You're absolutely right there. Hi Kay - and thanks for the suggestions! Thank you Chris and Helen!

Elaine – You go girl!

Great metaphor, Joy!

Dave – #1 – I wonder if you’re really asking “how can I trigger change without going through too much discomfort?” If not, then all I can advise on this is that you begin by becoming aware of what is causing you to want to change? Since all things are connected, if you start focusing on that one area (i.e. career), then other things will start to fall in line. (Or fall apart, as the case may be!) I wouldn’t necessarily “seek out” upheaval. As to #2 – One of the things I advise in my e-Seminars is to immerse yourself in better perspectives. Audiobooks, books, seminars, etc – you need support. That’s for sure. Meditation and prayer and daily walks as well. #3 — I don’t believe that you can just “find” courage. As I’ve written about in this blog in so many posts – courage is not the absence of fear — and courage gets built by doing scary things and learning how brilliant you are in the process! (Or at least that you are resilient!)

Thanks Colin. You’re absolutely right there.

Hi Kay – and thanks for the suggestions!

]]> By: Kay http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/comment-page-1/#comment-78875 Kay Thu, 17 Jan 2008 15:28:59 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/#comment-78875 Another terrific post Christine. Thought I might interject that there are a few books by William Bridges on transition that might be helpful to those who have made the leap but have not yet landed in the "new place." The two main ones are called "Transitions" and "The Way of Transition." Another terrific post Christine. Thought I might interject that there are a few books by William Bridges on transition that might be helpful to those who have made the leap but have not yet landed in the “new place.” The two main ones are called “Transitions” and “The Way of Transition.”

]]> By: Colin http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/comment-page-1/#comment-78872 Colin Thu, 17 Jan 2008 14:55:38 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/#comment-78872 Great sub-section "The Bottom Line" at the end of your post. I noticed a couple of readers appreciated the "western medicine" line, and I believe that the "if you always do what you've always done..." line is priceless. Life can be brutal sometimes, but at the end of the day, rarely complicated. Great sub-section “The Bottom Line” at the end of your post. I noticed a couple of readers appreciated the “western medicine” line, and I believe that the “if you always do what you’ve always done…” line is priceless. Life can be brutal sometimes, but at the end of the day, rarely complicated.

]]> By: Dave Livingston http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/comment-page-1/#comment-78869 Dave Livingston Thu, 17 Jan 2008 14:46:08 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/is-upheaval-required-for-personal-growth/#comment-78869 Very interesting. Taking it for the wisdom it is can I ask: 1) how do you trigger change - maybe you have a "nagging" feeling but do you search out upheaval, what for it to come to you or sneak up on it ? 2) how/where is your center - that is what ground do you find to stand on ? Is it all "little voices", can you work at it, e.g. readings, meditation, other work or is it all of the above sustained ? 3) how does one find the courage ? Very interesting. Taking it for the wisdom it is can I ask:
1) how do you trigger change – maybe you have a “nagging” feeling but do you search out upheaval, what for it to come to you or sneak up on it ?
2) how/where is your center – that is what ground do you find to stand on ? Is it all “little voices”, can you work at it, e.g. readings, meditation, other work or is it all of the above sustained ?
3) how does one find the courage ?

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