Comments on: Reach Out and Trust Someone

By: Christine Kane - How to Make the Most Delicious Greens Ever

Christine Kane - How to Make the Most Delicious Greens Ever — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 04:07:46 +0000

[...] Note About Spinach: I like spinach. And since I buy local organic produce, I didn’t have to panic last year when spinach got pulled off the grocery shelves. But I don’t like to use it in this dish – [...]

By: Scot Herrick's WriteBlog

Scot Herrick's WriteBlog — Mon, 25 Sep 2006 04:06:38 +0000

Best Writing Blog Posts – 09-24-2006

How many blogs do you read? I subscribe to almost 100 blogs and there are a lot of good ideas out there. If I find a good one for the week, I highlight it for the Sunday night posting to help all of us ease back into the work week.
So, sit back, ignore…

By: Dblwyo

Dblwyo — Sat, 23 Sep 2006 16:15:47 +0000

My pleasure. If you should happen to run across a copy of Stockdale’s book (available used very inexpensively at AMZN) you might find a lot of of useful tools and thoughts. Albeit from someone with a very different starting point. But in your counseling practice you might perhaps run across folks who live in worlds of pressure and stress that it’d resonate with. For example Jim Collins (of ‘Good to Great’ fame) found a lot of inspiration from his talks while at Stamford with Stockdale. Even if you found youself disagreeing that would provide stuff to mine.

By: christine

christine — Fri, 22 Sep 2006 02:42:39 +0000

Dblwyo, Great thoughts! Thanks for the praise and all the great references. Glad to have you among my subscriptions!

By: Dblwyo

Dblwyo — Fri, 22 Sep 2006 01:12:58 +0000

Kristine – speaking of reaching out for connections my path to your blog and entry was the extremely positive reaction to your entry on ‘Quitting’ (which I’d like to translate as do what you find is your best and highest good; and be quiet in yourself until you can hear yourself) on a chain of ‘hard-nosed business/finance blogs. You know where year-over-year changes in GDP are fascinating dialog as well as the tradable lows in June and August. Strange that values matter all over.

Speaking of connections and trust – with my translation – what I was reminded of was some of the writing of Epictetus. Which I came to thru the writings of Jim Stockdale, the man who organized the POWs into a civilization inside the Hanoi Hilton and based his own values, faith and trust on Epictetus and trust in his comrades. You might find his collections of essays in “Thoughts of a Philsophical Fighter Pilot” interesting and worth your while. Or maybe not as it’s a far world….but still .

In any case I’ve enjoyed several of your other entries and have bookmarked your blog.

It’s not only a small world but on odd world.

Best to All.

By: christine

christine — Thu, 21 Sep 2006 18:52:16 +0000

Starbucker… that’s okay. I didn’t take it personally ! (I read your blog enough to know you well.) That’s interesting that you found Southern Girl! An old song. I’m happy to make your wife smile too…

By: Starbucker

Starbucker — Thu, 21 Sep 2006 15:50:09 +0000

I think you were logging on as I was logging off – sorry I missed ya! I’ll make it up to you, I promise. Hope you are enjoying your travels. BTW, I played your “Southern Girl” to my wife the other day and it put a big smile on her face (and I so love her smile), so great work!

By: christine

christine — Thu, 21 Sep 2006 11:36:20 +0000

Hi Barb, What a great realization to have about the phone. You’re right. It’s always better in person. Glad you liked Seth’s stuff…

Hey Susie, That’s a great book! I use it at my retreats and workshops. It’s funny how seeing that one word “Love” added into the ingredients made me want to go ahead and take a chance on raw food cuisine. (Needless to say, I wasn’t disappointed!)

Thanks Kimberly! Great observations about your relationships. In the end, it’s way more worth it to trust and be open… I look forward to seeing you on the 13th too!

Starbucker! (I was at the “open mic” night the other night and you logged off without saying hi! very sad me.) And of course, you know more than I do about the great connections in blogging. And you’re obviously a great guy to work with too. You’re clients and co-workers are lucky!

By: Starbucker

Starbucker — Thu, 21 Sep 2006 04:59:54 +0000

Yes Christine, it’s those “connections and interactions” that make such a difference in building trust (and enjoying blogging to the fullest). That’s why I spend so much time on the road, talking to my teammates in the field face to face – how can they ever trust me if they can’t look me in the eye every now and then? If I’m not connected, I’m lost. If I can’t trust (and be trusted), I can’t live. Thanks, and all the best.

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Thu, 21 Sep 2006 03:20:31 +0000

I have had to think a lot about my connections recently. What are my motivations for connecting? I have a lot of male friends. I am wondering if I am repressing crushes or romantic feelings. I am famous for not realizing that the “best friend” is the one I should be with and not the “hottie” or “Mr. Right Now” I usually end up with. Is there someone right in front of my fact that is perfect for me that I am missing? Until I figure this out, I am on a “romantical sabbatical.” I have a lot to offer in a relationship and I want to be sure I make the right choice and that I know myself. In a weird, unexplained burst of inspiration, I wrote a song last Sunday night called, “You Could Take Me Home.” I hadn’t written in weeks until 10 days ago. The song talks about what I think many “social butterflies” like me need in a connection with a signifcant other–someone with a quiet spirit that quells the restlessness in our bones–someone we can just be home with. I think there is value in that kind of connection.

I have a friend that I love but this friend feels like people aren’t worth the time and connections are useless. I think that is a sad, cynical way to look at the world. I used these lines when I spoke to a civic club recently–People hurt, but people heal. Often we hurt others without meaning to,or maybe because of some turmoil inside of us and vice versa. When that happens, I examine the relationship and see if it is worth keeping. Some relationships just drain you and “hook” you into that drama triangle. I used to be easily hooked and often I would “hook” other people. I am changing though, faster than I expected. If the relationship is worth it, you will forgive, heal and often be closer than you were before.

Christine, thanks for challenging me to think and examine my own connections. I can’t wait to see you Oct. 13!