Comments on: The Legend of Rhonda Brickman http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/ Be Creative. Be Conscious. Be Courageous. Mon, 15 Mar 2010 23:43:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Pat K. http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/comment-page-1/#comment-156400 Pat K. Fri, 29 Aug 2008 23:29:13 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/#comment-156400 Katharine, I'm (partially) with you. At least it would be good to consider that she may think the world of him. But I guess it might be that she is just bragging/telling tall tales. I'll just trust Christine to know the woman better than I do. ;-) *** Katherineme, Your point about your body size is on the money. Because I think I'm still a size 7, I don't do anything about my size 10-12 body. I guess it's time to change that one! Pat Katharine,

I’m (partially) with you. At least it would be good to consider that she may think the world of him. But I guess it might be that she is just bragging/telling tall tales. I’ll just trust Christine to know the woman better than I do. ;-)

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Katherineme,

Your point about your body size is on the money. Because I think I’m still a size 7, I don’t do anything about my size 10-12 body. I guess it’s time to change that one!

Pat

]]> By: Pat K. http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/comment-page-1/#comment-156396 Pat K. Fri, 29 Aug 2008 23:22:26 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/#comment-156396 The spinning of 'stories' can be a good thing. Especially a good, N-E-W story. I'll watch myself for the next few weeks to see what stories I weave about myself that are self-deprecating and make them more positive. (I can't do X....I'm clumsy....I'm fill-in-the-blank.) Stories about my mother? THOSE are legends, because she is one. :^) Anything my Grandfather did, heck that's legend. He built this lake with a shovel...no...a SPOON! (Kind of a Paul Bunyan of the family in terms of legend quality.) He told the most fascinating Elfman stories, complete with owls that you road on the back of, and gigantic snow storms that the Elfman would help him out of when he was out in the woods. I wish I could hear JUST ONE MORE STORY! My dog? Greatest Dog in the Universe, naturally. Pat The spinning of ’stories’ can be a good thing. Especially a good, N-E-W story. I’ll watch myself for the next few weeks to see what stories I weave about myself that are self-deprecating and make them more positive. (I can’t do X….I’m clumsy….I’m fill-in-the-blank.)

Stories about my mother? THOSE are legends, because she is one. :^)

Anything my Grandfather did, heck that’s legend. He built this lake with a shovel…no…a SPOON! (Kind of a Paul Bunyan of the family in terms of legend quality.) He told the most fascinating Elfman stories, complete with owls that you road on the back of, and gigantic snow storms that the Elfman would help him out of when he was out in the woods. I wish I could hear JUST ONE MORE STORY! My dog? Greatest Dog in the Universe, naturally.

Pat

]]> By: Katharine http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/comment-page-1/#comment-155754 Katharine Thu, 28 Aug 2008 13:04:25 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/#comment-155754 Am I the only one who, rather than reflecting on differences between preconception and actuality, thinks that this is in fact a really lovely comment on Rhonda Brickman and her relationship with her husband? Clearly, she believes he's amazing. Am I the only one who, rather than reflecting on differences between preconception and actuality, thinks that this is in fact a really lovely comment on Rhonda Brickman and her relationship with her husband? Clearly, she believes he’s amazing.

]]> By: chris zydel http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/comment-page-1/#comment-155231 chris zydel Wed, 27 Aug 2008 07:03:12 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/#comment-155231 What is it about cars? I think of myself as a relatively open, fairly compassionate, non-judgmental person until I get behind the wheel of my car and then my mind decides that it has all KINDS of permission to judge people with total abandon! I think that it is so much easier to project onto a person when you can't see them or have never met them ( like Rhonda Brickman's hubby), so I have really been making myself look at the people in the cars that have been pissing me off ( when possible) and it does seem to be helping some. Especially the young guy hot shots who speed past me and whip around in front of me and scare the living patootie out of me. Boy oh BOY do I ever want to make THEM bad and wrong! But lately, I've been trying to imagine being these guys, really putting myself inside of their hyperdriven, 20 year old hormone fueled bodies, and I have started to realize that they really can't help themselves! And of course, their wild and crazy driving behavior has nothing at all to do with me. And it makes me IMMENSELY grateful that I am no longer 20 and hormone crazed... well, at least in that way!! Thanks again for another great post! What is it about cars? I think of myself as a relatively open, fairly compassionate, non-judgmental person until I get behind the wheel of my car and then my mind decides that it has all KINDS of permission to judge people with total abandon! I think that it is so much easier to project onto a person when you can’t see them or have never met them ( like Rhonda Brickman’s hubby), so I have really been making myself look at the people in the cars that have been pissing me off ( when possible) and it does seem to be helping some. Especially the young guy hot shots who speed past me and whip around in front of me and scare the living patootie out of me. Boy oh BOY do I ever want to make THEM bad and wrong! But lately, I’ve been trying to imagine being these guys, really putting myself inside of their hyperdriven, 20 year old hormone fueled bodies, and I have started to realize that they really can’t help themselves! And of course, their wild and crazy driving behavior has nothing at all to do with me. And it makes me IMMENSELY grateful that I am no longer 20 and hormone crazed… well, at least in that way!!

Thanks again for another great post!

]]> By: Amylia Grace http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/comment-page-1/#comment-154927 Amylia Grace Tue, 26 Aug 2008 19:44:38 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/#comment-154927 I'm usually way off when it comes to my preconceived notions of people vs. my first impressions vs. my later impressions. I know not to trust myself in this regard and to be open-minded about people because they so often are much different from the way I pigeon-hole them in that limited thinking part of my brain that likes to compartmentalized people. There's freedom in no longer believing that voice!!! I’m usually way off when it comes to my preconceived notions of people vs. my first impressions vs. my later impressions. I know not to trust myself in this regard and to be open-minded about people because they so often are much different from the way I pigeon-hole them in that limited thinking part of my brain that likes to compartmentalized people. There’s freedom in no longer believing that voice!!!

]]> By: KatherineME http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/comment-page-1/#comment-154887 KatherineME Tue, 26 Aug 2008 18:12:05 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/#comment-154887 I am not used to my now, size 14 body. I eat the same, play the same, work the same, sleep the same. So why am I not the same size 7 I think of myself as? Yes, I know the reason. My age is not the same. My metabolism is not the same. I just have not accepted these cold hard truths must effect my weight. Today in yoga class, the idea of acceptance came into my practice and in talking with the teacher after class, she said acceptance is the beginning for something new to grow. We were refering to things that came up about balance, but my weight could use that same loving acceptance so that I can grow from here. (Not bigger--God I hope not!) The stuck place I have been is: "I 'should be' a size 7 and I won't be totally content until I am". I need to accept where I am and be light-hearted and easy about it, like I experienced in yoga. who knows, maybe I will be that size again, but I don't want to spend the rest of my life being a bit cranky all the time because I am not. I think I like the idea of sing-songing my own name when I catch myself sulking about my weight. Kaaatheriiiine. I am not used to my now, size 14 body. I eat the same, play the same, work the same, sleep the same. So why am I not the same size 7 I think of myself as? Yes, I know the reason. My age is not the same. My metabolism is not the same. I just have not accepted these cold hard truths must effect my weight. Today in yoga class, the idea of acceptance came into my practice and in talking with the teacher after class, she said acceptance is the beginning for something new to grow. We were refering to things that came up about balance, but my weight could use that same loving acceptance so that I can grow from here. (Not bigger–God I hope not!) The stuck place I have been is: “I ’should be’ a size 7 and I won’t be totally content until I am”. I need to accept where I am and be light-hearted and easy about it, like I experienced in yoga. who knows, maybe I will be that size again, but I don’t want to spend the rest of my life being a bit cranky all the time because I am not. I think I like the idea of sing-songing my own name when I catch myself sulking about my weight. Kaaatheriiiine.

]]> By: Sassy http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/comment-page-1/#comment-154868 Sassy Tue, 26 Aug 2008 17:34:02 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/#comment-154868 I live in Oregon, and like most Oregonians, I like to take my time while I'm driving down the freeway. Every once in awhile though, there will be a car behind me that wants to go uber-fast while I'm trying to pass a car going slower than me. For the most part, I chalk up these tail-gaters to selfish jerks who don't care about the safety of others, and can't understand why they don't have the decency to put on their brakes for a moment. Recently though, my son had a major allergic reaction and it was imperative that I drove him to the emergency room on the freeway. I sped the entire way. There were several times I intentionally tailgated the slow cars in front of me to get them to move out of my way because I was in such an emergency. The tables had turned, and now I was the selfish jerk who couldn't put on her brakes for a moment. I now have much more compassion for those people who have pressing needs to get ahead of me. It's funny how walking for even an instant in someone else's shoes can create a whole ocean of compassion in us. I hold on to experiences like this one, so that the next time I'm feeling put-off by someone in any situation, I take a deep breath and practice compassion. Thank you for letting me share this story. And thank you for sharing yours. Namaste, Sarah I live in Oregon, and like most Oregonians, I like to take my time while I’m driving down the freeway. Every once in awhile though, there will be a car behind me that wants to go uber-fast while I’m trying to pass a car going slower than me. For the most part, I chalk up these tail-gaters to selfish jerks who don’t care about the safety of others, and can’t understand why they don’t have the decency to put on their brakes for a moment.

Recently though, my son had a major allergic reaction and it was imperative that I drove him to the emergency room on the freeway. I sped the entire way. There were several times I intentionally tailgated the slow cars in front of me to get them to move out of my way because I was in such an emergency. The tables had turned, and now I was the selfish jerk who couldn’t put on her brakes for a moment.

I now have much more compassion for those people who have pressing needs to get ahead of me. It’s funny how walking for even an instant in someone else’s shoes can create a whole ocean of compassion in us. I hold on to experiences like this one, so that the next time I’m feeling put-off by someone in any situation, I take a deep breath and practice compassion.

Thank you for letting me share this story. And thank you for sharing yours.

Namaste,
Sarah

]]> By: Diane http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/comment-page-1/#comment-154757 Diane Tue, 26 Aug 2008 14:05:04 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/#comment-154757 I probably spin my own legends thinking about how I appeared to have things so together in my past. Often I find it very interesting when I meet someone's spouse because they are rarely what I had envisioned. They usually just don't match the stories I've heard. School started yesterday and my son got the teacher he didn't want. All summer long he said, "I sure hope I don't get Mrs - " I told him to go with an open mind and form his own opinion. First thing he said yesterday when I picked him up was "Mom, she was nice! She was nothing like what I had heard! We even get to play games on Friday if we're good!" I just said, "Wow" and smiled...especially inside. Looking forward to meeting you Christine! I think you will be even more spectacular in person! I probably spin my own legends thinking about how I appeared to have things so together in my past.

Often I find it very interesting when I meet someone’s spouse because they are rarely what I had envisioned. They usually just don’t match the stories I’ve heard.

School started yesterday and my son got the teacher he didn’t want. All summer long he said, “I sure hope I don’t get Mrs – ” I told him to go with an open mind and form his own opinion. First thing he said yesterday when I picked him up was “Mom, she was nice! She was nothing like what I had heard! We even get to play games on Friday if we’re good!” I just said, “Wow” and smiled…especially inside.

Looking forward to meeting you Christine! I think you will be even more spectacular in person!

]]> By: Christine Kane http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/comment-page-1/#comment-154746 Christine Kane Tue, 26 Aug 2008 13:34:50 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/#comment-154746 Thanks everyone! pam and linda - yep. it's so easy to try to categorize people. i had a friend who was a self-proclaimed "bulldyke" whose favorite movie was Pretty Woman! Mark - I altered her name slightly so that she wouldn't google herself and find an entire block post written by someone she doesn't know! colin - well, when it comes to cats - you're allowed to make up stories! sue - I think she does the sing-songy voice - and says, "meeeee." :-) Thanks everyone!

pam and linda – yep. it’s so easy to try to categorize people. i had a friend who was a self-proclaimed “bulldyke” whose favorite movie was Pretty Woman!

Mark – I altered her name slightly so that she wouldn’t google herself and find an entire block post written by someone she doesn’t know!

colin – well, when it comes to cats – you’re allowed to make up stories!

sue – I think she does the sing-songy voice – and says, “meeeee.” :-)

]]> By: Sue http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/comment-page-1/#comment-154740 Sue Tue, 26 Aug 2008 13:19:02 +0000 http://christinekane.com/blog/the-legend-of-rhonda-brickman/#comment-154740 This cracks me up. So many times when I've only 'spoken' to someone via email for work, then met them much later, I'll find myself thinking things like, "Hmm, I didn't picture her dressing that way." And what, from her voice I had this opinion?!!! :) I wonder what Rhonda Brickman calls her Rhonda Brickman moments?? This cracks me up. So many times when I’ve only ’spoken’ to someone via email for work, then met them much later, I’ll find myself thinking things like, “Hmm, I didn’t picture her dressing that way.” And what, from her voice I had this opinion?!!! :)
I wonder what Rhonda Brickman calls her Rhonda Brickman moments??

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