Comments on: Upheaval: A Personal Story

By: stephanie

stephanie — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 17:00:38 +0000

Christine,
I noticed something missing from your blog … I don’t see any mention of THE decision – whether or not to have children. I don’t know your age, so perhaps you are just too young to worry about such things. But I’d love to hear your perspective on what seems to be the biggest decision a person can make.

By: Emily Jolie

Emily Jolie — Sat, 02 Feb 2008 16:59:09 +0000

Dear Christine,

Thank you for sharing your story! I related to a lot in it. You wrote about the good guy/bad guy phenomenon and about having been both the heart-breaker and the heart-broken one. A few years ago, I found myself being both at once, as I was in a marriage, fell madly in love with another man, he supposedly felt the same way, and, yet, was unwilling/unable to leave his marriage and move forward. I broke my husband’s heart and had my own heart broken all at the same time, and it certainly felt like I lost my mind in grief (as well as guilt). Incidentally, that’s when I turned to bulimia.

Though I was rather confident, even then, that the universe worked in mysterious, yet perfect ways, my heart felt shattered, and I was in a deep dark pit.

Almost 4 years later, looking back, the picture continues to become clearer and clearer, and my perspective is much less tainted by the emotion I was so caught up in at the time.

Though I rationally could see the lesson in it at the time, I really wasn’t able to appreciate it until now that my emotions have cooled.

Time really is an undeniable healing factor, and it helps to have faith in the perfection of the universe and feel your angels’ guidance along the way!

with love to you,

~Emily

By: Katie Baird

Katie Baird — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 19:26:44 +0000

That kind of upheaval feels very close to grief . I have had opportunities for some great soul-baring talks with my adult kids on related subjects and didn’t realize until they were having their own upheavals just how much I had learned from my own. I just wish it didn’t take so long! Watching one of my son’s life be interrupted for more than two years was very painful as a mom/human!

Thank you for this topic.

On a fluffier note, and as one who admires your blog a lot, I have tagged you for a meme over at Loosely Speaking (blog.looseends.net)

By: ChickiePam

ChickiePam — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 19:39:11 +0000

Then there’s that country song, “Thank God for unanswered prayers”. I’ve found that for me they aren’t unanswered at all. It’s just that I sometimes consciously ask for something that my soul doesn’t intend.

Example: I want my marriage to work vs I want to know what my soul path is for this life and then live it. They were not compatible things at all! Finding out what it is that I am here to do in this life is the thing that took priority. I’m grateful for that.

That’s the power of journals for me. The ability to go back and find out what was REALLY going on at the time.
Thanks,
Pam

By: Christine Kane

Christine Kane — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 17:41:46 +0000

deb – thanks for your humor!

lisa – yes, indeed he does. it’s very cute (and pathetic!)

By: Lisa Call

Lisa Call — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 00:12:55 +0000

Does your cat also back across the room with the bag on it’s head if you don’t rescue it soon enough? Mine do that and it’s excellent.

I’ve had that image in my head all day and it makes me smile.

By: Deb

Deb — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 20:51:09 +0000

Hi Christine. I hadn’t thought to look at the prayers as a possible instigator in the current upheaval; probably because I wasn’t thinking about it being upheaval. Okay, I’m a tad dense when I’m sleep-deprived.

Maybe I should actually read Nouwen instead of just noting what everybody else says he says.

By: Christine Kane

Christine Kane — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 16:27:13 +0000

Thanks to all for such affirming thoughts and insights. Mags – it was indeed south africa, and it was indeed JUST before the upheaval there! (and yes, I’ve written about it in songs and in my blog too!)

By: Joy Gardner

Joy Gardner — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 13:40:12 +0000

It takes a heckuva lot of courage and humility to get through, Christine, and your example IS indeed a lighthouse beacon for so many. We don’t always see all the chess pieces, much less the board. I have been through a similar experience, except Asheville (ironically) was Singapore, and while at the time I did not have supportive friends, (they too all thought I had lost my mind in grief, maybe I did for a while), I grabbed myself by the scruff of the neck (you know how that goes) and got myself a really good therapist. I didn’t want to “FEEL” better. I wanted to GET better. That difference, has made all the difference, and I’ve learned so much. I’m still learning. No, you are not a victim. You are, as Henri Nouwen wrote so eloquently of, a “wounded healer”. The best kind!

By: Diane

Diane — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 13:36:48 +0000

Thank you Christine for being so very open about your life. Touching even one life for the better is a wonderful intent and desire. You’ve touched many more and like Oprah says “All we can hope for is to make this world a better place for the future generation” Thanks again for all you do!