Comments on: Watch Your Language

By: Themes of Happiness « Simple Wings

Themes of Happiness « Simple Wings — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 09:39:46 +0000

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By: SecondHand Karl

SecondHand Karl — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 07:15:37 +0000

OK, this is the second post I’ve read of yours tonight. I’m going through a major shift in my life, thanks to my Year of Resolutions idea. Trying to move from jaded cynic to, well, happy. (Which never seemed feasible to me before.)

I’m just sad that I’m a dude and can’t go to that retreat because you actually make SENSE. And you communicate at an amazing level, which I dig. Still, I’m reading this stuff at a perfect time, I guess, and I’m glad someone pointed me your way.

Just don’t tell anyone I’ve been here, or I’ll lose my Half Empty Glass License.

By: Babyamore (Trish)

Babyamore (Trish) — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 14:01:02 +0000

oh no I just a whole post on Never … a head and tails meme
I think this advice rocks !

By: ChickiePam

ChickiePam — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 21:16:50 +0000

I am re-painting my children’s bedrooms. When I paint, I take out my trusty paint brush and the wall paint and I write on the walls first. I write things like love, joy, peace, contentment, Rinnie rocks, Doug rocks, I am beauty, grace, etc. Then when I paint over the words, I envision embedding them into the walls (as opposed to erasing them). My version of love and gratitude stickers on my teenagers!

By: Christine Kane

Christine Kane — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 11:48:01 +0000

lisa – what you’re describing is exactly what i’m getting at here – the difference on the INSIDE of acknowledging something, versus using it as a jump off point in conversations or whatever. it’s a very different energy!

thanks pam and lisa!

helen – what i actually favor is a holistic approach. (which is why i resisted medicine. i seemed to focus only on the symptom.) this is just one of the tactics that helped me along the way.

hiya liz! that’s so true about finding out what you’re thinking by listening to what you’re saying…

By: Liz Strauss

Liz Strauss — Sun, 18 Nov 2007 17:53:20 +0000

Hey Christine,
So true, every word in the post and the comments from the group. When we change the words, we can change our world view in just a second. I often listen to the words I use to track what phrases are coming up a lot. Then I know, what I’m really thinking.

By: Helen

Helen — Sat, 17 Nov 2007 16:16:47 +0000

Thanks for your kind answer, Christine.

Maybe I didn’t understand the “no complaining” idea properly. I have been badly depressed and one of the things that helped me out was meditation ; allowing all ideas even negative ones to emerge and then letting them go as bubbles touched by a light feather. Another one was to learn to take the time to untangle the real emotion under the “this sucks” first reaction and try to express it as “I feel… “. Other recipes included not going to bed before I had managed to do at least one nice thing for me or found one positive thing in my life (a flower, a sunset, a chocolate, a poem…). I wrote a lot too, splashing whatever words would come into a secret diary, trying not to censure myself. However, I thought when I read about the “no complaining” campaign that it would somehow mean giving up therapies such as psychoanalysis ; what do you tell your shrink if you don’t complain anymore ?

Coming from a family with a history a depression and manic depression, I understand why a lot of people refuse medication. But I also know you can spare yourself a painful crisis thanks to sensible medication. It is all a matter of “middle path” in my view. And once you know your weaknesses you are surely stronger.

Maybe I feel troubled because you favour a “behaviourist” approach to healing whereas I feel more confident with other healing recipes -in that, we reflect what is going on in our respective countries, but it’s very good for me, it makes me think

Anyways, sincere congratulations to all the complaint free goers !

By: Lisa Natoli

Lisa Natoli — Sat, 17 Nov 2007 04:23:00 +0000

I LOVE YOUR BLOG!!!!! OMG. I totally love it. You are an inspiration. Thank you!!!!

By: ChickiePam

ChickiePam — Sat, 17 Nov 2007 03:34:10 +0000

To katherine/me: Your comment about taping your kids with “love and gratitude” cracked me up!!! I’m still chuckling and I read all of the comments after yours. I have one child/young man leaving teenagehood and my daughter is just entering teenagehood. I wonder if I slathered them with love and gratitude stickers if they would stop rolling their eyes at me for just one day?! Ha! No, I’m not complaining! I’m just speculating and laughing! Thanks.
Pam

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sat, 17 Nov 2007 02:07:52 +0000

Stop calling myself depressed. May I just say, in all my years of trying to own the depression that I battle and call attention to it to other so that it is not such a stigma, *no one* has ever made such a simply powerful statement. I thank you for that. It gives me a focus I have never had before. It gives me a focus I feel I need. I think there is a difference between acknowledging something realistically and acknowledging something so that it has a power over you. I have focussed on the latter. It is refreshing to know that there is another way. I thank you for that realization and, as always, your music.