The “Been-There-Done-That” Guide to Criticism
“Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember – the only taste of success some people get is to take a bite out of you.” – Zig Ziglar
Here’s one thing I’m pretty sure of:
I’m pretty sure you don’t want a “Guide to Criticism.”
In fact, you’d probably prefer a guide called: “How to Avoid Criticism and Ensure that Everybody Loves You Unequivocally til the Day You Die.”
Unfortunately, that guide would also be called: “How to Have a Totally Boring Life.”
Face it. When you play a bigger game, or step into your power – you’ll most likely make some people uncomfortable. Unfortunately, in the face of discomfort, most people don’t look within to find the source of it. They choose, instead, to lash out, criticize, or get cynical. All of us – myself included – have played this game! [read more …]
How to Overcome Stage Fright
I was backstage packing up the stuff in my dressing room.
A woman knocked on the door and said, “Can I ask you something?” I invited her in. She asked me how long I had been performing. I told her. Then she said, “What I’d like to know is — when did you get over stage fright?”
(At moments like this, I wish my husband were standing behind me so he could let out a boisterous “HA!”)
I said, “I’m pretty sure I haven’t yet.”
I told her that for the first whole year of performing, I was terrified every night I got onto a stage – even if the “stage” was made of shipping pallets and duct tape. [read more …]
6 Irresistible Reasons to Stop Explaining Yourself
Rita’s parents didn’t approve of her choice to get a new kitten. Rita was expecting a long letter from them filled with judgments about her irresponsibility. As she waited for that letter, she was figuring out what she would write back.
Sylvia, one of my Platinum-level coaching clients, just bought her dream house. She avoided telling her father about it for fear that he would judge her, call her irresponsible and proceed to describe her imminent demise. She finally did tell her father. On our call, she told me that she was waiting for his reaction gearing up to explain her choice to him.
Now, there are some people who might read these stories and think, “Are you kiddin’ me? Who cares what anyone thinks about your houses or cats or anything??!”
If this is you, then read no further. This article is not for you.[read more …]
9 Simple Solutions for Procrastinators
Irony: As I started to write this article, I thought, “I’ll just go play one Sudoku game first.” I caught myself in the act and marched to my laptop.
People who say that procrastination is about laziness are probably the same people who think that anorexia is about not eating enough.
Procrastination isn’t about laziness. It’s about fear. It’s about perfectionism. It’s about overwhelm. We all experience it, and there are some tricks to help you get moving again.[read more …]
The Universe Is Your Dog
“Start by becoming a pack leader in your own world and healing your own world, and the effects will ripple.” – Cesar Millan, The Dog Whisperer
One of the fun assignments in my Uplevel Your Life Mastery Program is what I call “Mental Dress Up.”
This is a game that you can play daily. It is designed to bring intentions to life by literally embodying them in your own being.
Here’s how it works:[read more …]