“Your playing small does not serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine…” – - Marianne Williamson
If there’s one thing I’ve learned from my work as a mentor and coach, it’s that everyone defines “Playing Big” differently. My friend Joy told me that Playing Big means that she meditates and visualizes in the morning, rather than rushing out and getting busy.
Too often, we think Playing Big means stepping into a spotlight on a stage in Vegas and never feeling scared again.
Playing big often DOES involve a spotlight, yes.
But the cool thing is that everyone’s got a different spotlight to walk under. Some spotlights are literally on the stage. And some spotlights are the ones that shine brightly on our deepest darkest thoughts because we’re ready to release them once and for all.
The bright glow of the spotlight represents something.
It represents not hiding.
This is what Playing Big all about. Not hiding behind your busy-ness, not hiding behind your whininess, not hiding behind your knee-jerk judgments of people, not hiding in your comfort zone.
Playing Big can mean letting people be disappointed in your choices and making them anyway. Playing Big can mean making a request rather than complaining. Playing Big can mean feeling one of your typically self-defeating emotional reactions coming on – and shifting it in the moment to continue your momentum. Playing Big can mean saying no!
Like my friend Joy getting up and meditating, Playing Big is so much about our everyday choices. And the victory often comes without any major applause! (Dang!)
One of my Platinum Coaching Clients sent an email to me this week – and she wrote something that, to me, defines the essence of Playing Big in her own spotlight. Here’s what she said:
“My intention is to gently explore what it means to *really* show up. It hit me last week that often, while I might physically show up for something, I’m fairly checked out. I think for a long time I just expected my external circumstances to draw me in and engage me. Very passive (and very easy to blame ADD.) Instead, I can just intend to truly show up!”
What’s your spotlight? And how are you going to step into it?