Somewhere along the way, we learn to avoid things that are uncomfortable.
“Hey look at this,” we think. “If I just stay here in the middle – away from the sharp edges – then I don’t get too banged up.”
Slowly, our goals cease being about what we want to create or who we dream of becoming. Slowly, our goals become more about how to avoid the edges.
When the edges sneak up on us anyway – as they tend to do – then we find ways to soften them. Conveniently, we live in a world that will happily help us soften the edges.
We distract. We eat. We smoke. We drink a glass (or three) of wine before dinner. We become anti-anxiety, anti-depression, anti-mood. We watch hours of stuff that means nothing to us. We soften the edges.
And you know what? It kinda works. In the moment, we seem not to get bumped as hard.
Only problem is that as we lose the edges, we also lose the wisdom that the edges are designed to bring. We lose the intuition that comes from the experience. We lose the discovery of our own boundaries and preferences. And we lose the joy that is a natural result of vulnerability, awareness, and energy.
In other words, you can try your level best to stay in the middle not bumping into the edges. But one day, it will occur to you that you have avoided so much more in the process.
I just returned from spending several days with the amazing women in my Platinum and Diamond coaching mastermind. These are women who run their own businesses. They’re creative. They’re entrepreneurial. They shine. They have big breakthroughs and major victories.
And, of course, they hit edges along the way. (So does their coach! :-))
Like all of us, they’ve been programmed to wonder if something is wrong because they have bumped into a sharp edge. Among other things, I remind them to welcome and bless the edges. After all, no one succeeds without them.