How to Take Positive Steps Towards Healing after Divorce
When you’re healing after divorce, there can be a tremendous sense of loss. You’ve lost your partner (for better or worse) and you may feel like you’ve lost a part of your identity.
You’re no longer—
—and it can be hard to let go of these roles.
But remember that that’s all they are: roles. They aren’t YOU. You aren’t defined by your roles.
I’ve worked with a lot of women who are healing after divorce and looking to rebuild their lives, and I know it’s not easy.
But I also know that if you take positive steps towards healing after divorce that you can come out on the other side stronger, happier, and feeling better than you’ve ever felt before.
And I’d really like to help you get to that place.
1. Healing After Divorce: Letting Go with Forgiveness
For some, the hardest part of healing after divorce is the process of letting go, but it’s absolutely crucial to help you move on. Don’t hold onto the past—all those old arguments, upsets, and disappointments. It won’t serve you, and in fact it can prevent you from healing after divorce, if you’re not careful.
Letting go starts with forgiveness, and you have to start by forgiving yourself.
Forgive yourself for all the ways you failed yourself in your relationship. For the ways you abandoned your own needs or desires. For not trusting your gut and listening to yourself. For any negative or petty actions. For anger. Jealousy. Reactivity.
Forgive yourself first so that you can start healing.
Then, forgive your former partner.
I know, I know, it’s “easier said than done,” but you’ve GOT to do it. Take it slow. Be gentle with yourself. It won’t happen overnight, and it doesn’t need to, but think of it this way: Every time you let go, you create more space for what you REALLY want in your life.
And I’m here to tell you that you deserve it, and that you can have it.
The key to healing after divorce is to forgive yourself and your partner so that you can create space for a more whole, complete relationship—with yourself, and with someone else.
2. Healing After Divorce: Discovering the Life You Want
When you’re healing after divorce, you’re in a period of transition. You’re also in a period of discovery, and that’s got a lot of juice! It’s time for you to focus on yourself and discover who you really are, and what you want out of your life and future partnerships.
That said, it’s completely understandable to feel confused about a lot of this when you’re healing after divorce.
“But, Christine, I don’t know WHAT I want,” you might be thinking.
And that’s okay. I’m here to help you find out!
One of the best ways I know to gain clarity and set an intention for the life (and the love) you want, is to create a vision board. Over 22,000 people have downloaded my ebook, The Complete Guide to Vision Boards, to help them on their own path, including healing from divorce.
And so, right now, I’d like to invite you to download The Complete Guide to Vision Boards, as my gift to you, to help you on your journey.
3. Healing After Divorce: Creating the Life You Want
Learning how to practice good self-care can be one of the most valuable lessons you receive when healing from divorce. When you take the time to really honor yourself, and what you need to be happy, you’re inviting more joy into your life.
When you make your vision board, focus on the images that make you feel happy. In The Complete Guide to Vision Boards, you’ll learn the 8 Steps to Creating an Effective Vision Board, including the 3 Types of Vision Boards, (I recommend a Theme Vision Board when healing after divorce), and The Process of Making a Powerful Vision Board.
These exercises can help you create the life you really want when healing after divorce, by awakening a sense of self-discovery, and by following the powerful law of attraction.
Now, I’m not trying to sugar-coat it. I know that change is hard. Letting go is hard. But I also know that you’re resilient, and I know that healing after divorce is possible for you.
You can do this! And you’ll emerge even stronger, more empowered, more confident, and more unstoppable than ever before.