This is mostly a repeat post from when I sent out this invitation before. (I’ve edited some of the text and added a few additional notes.)
Months ago, I was emailing with a well-known author and speaker. At the end of our exchange, she wrote that she had “added me to her prayer list.” She wrote what she would pray for, and what she was affirming for me (as well as for my dad, who had been in the hospital). I was in the lobby of a hotel when I read her email. Instantly, I was filled with a deep peace and gratitude to know that I was being included in this amazing woman’s prayers.
Prayer is powerful. It is not about magic or “making things happen.” It’s about miracles and knowing the deep truth about any situation or person. It’s not wishful thinking. (“I’ll pray you win the lottery!”) It’s a recognition of the highest and best. (“I am praying and knowing that you are always taken care of, that you always have more than enough, and that you are abundant and at peace.”)
Prayer is not woo-woo or froo-froo. It is not owned by ministers or priests. It is not owned by any religion. It is a necessity in the everydays of almost every person in my life. It is the most grounded activity of my day, besides writing. (And hiking with my dog.)
I love prayer lists. I am on the prayer list of a wild and remarkable minister here in Asheville. (She has a “powerful women” prayer list that is part of her morning routine, and I am absolutely honored to be on that list.) I think we would each be wise to start prayer lists and add people to them.
Please note: not everyone wants to be on your prayer list! And watch out for your own “stuff!” In other words, if you think your co-worker should be married and you feel so sorry for her that she’s still single at 34 — that’s your “stuff.” When you say, “God, please give Margie a good boyfriend so that she can feel happier,” what you’re really saying is, “God, please give Margie a good boyfriend so that I can feel more comfortable around her.” Maybe you should pray instead that you become more comfortable.
After all, maybe Margie wants a girlfriend!
Adding someone to your prayer list because you feel “sorry” for her brings a lower level of energy to the prayer. Prayer can realign and reconnect each of us our with own deep power, and in so doing, take us out of our victim state and propel us into our truth. We are all – every single one of us – powerful and creative beings. Knowing that truth alone can help you understand that there’s no one who benefits from you feeling sorry for them.
In all instances of prayer lists, the person who has prayed for me has asked me if they could add me, and has checked in about the language of their prayer. This is a good thing! I wouldn’t necessarily want someone to pray for me to get what they think I should get.
So, this is an invitation to you. I am facilitating another women’s retreat this weekend. We convene on Friday afternoon, June 15. At these retreats there’s always a small altar where the women place pinecones, acorns, candles, buddah statues, drawings, rocks and poems. If you would like to be on our prayer list throughout this weekend, I’ll be placing a list of names on that altar. Your spirit and presence will be a part of the weekend. And when we do pray, I will include you in that ritual. (Don’t worry. I won’t be shouting out any personal baggage to 21 women!)
Men are invited to be on the list as well. As are pets and relatives and relationships of all kinds.
You don’t have to elaborate upon every detail of what you want or don’t want. The prayers we do are pretty basic, but very powerful. They are about intent and affirmation and knowing the truth about each and every person and situation. I’ve received lots of emails from people since I started doing this prayer list at the retreats. Every one of the emails has said that the recipient “felt” the prayers and deeply knows that they helped. I love that!
If you’d like to be on our prayer list, please send me an email to email@example.com. I will be the only one who reads these. If you feel comfortable enough to leave your request in the comments below, I will print those out as well. And then you will be a part of this amazing group of women and you’ll get to benefit in subtle happy indescribable ways.