“Shouldn’t I be well-adjusted by now?”
This question was posed to me recently by Vanessa, one of my Platinum-Level coaching clients. It was said (mostly) in jest, as she faced some fear and very real excitement about a new business opportunity and all the things it triggered inside of her.
Her question is loaded.
Here’s just a small list of the other questions contained within it:
“Isn’t there an age at which I should stop growing, trying, expanding, risking… living?”
“Aren’t other woman done with fear and uncertainty by the time they’re, say, 40?”
“Shouldn’t my emotions have shut down by now?”
“Shouldn’t I feel ashamed for not having it all figured out?”
“Wouldn’t it be better if I just stayed put and did what was expected of me?”
“Appropriate women plan their lives so they can retire in Boca and play golf, don’t they?”
“Shouldn’t I avoid this discomfort in favor of fitting in?”
“Don’t normal people stop trying new things at a certain point?”
“Shouldn’t I have control over, say, everything by now?”
Well, I’ll tell you what.
This blog has lots of very wise readers. I’m just going to invite these wise wise women to answer or just add their thoughts about Vanessa’s question – cuz I’m really really curious.