Subliminal Botox - Christine Kane

Judy was at my December Great Big Dreams Retreat. She’s 67. I’d like to report that when she mentioned her age to the circle of women, there was a collective gasp in the air. But really, it was more like a collective “Huh?”

Judy could easily have told us she was in her 50’s. She looks (and feels) that young. She has the vitality and enthusiasm of a twenty year old. And her face and skin are just youthful. In a natural way. Not in a plastic surgery way.

At one point over the weekend, I was talking with Judy and a few other women. I told Judy that she was an inspiration to all of us at the retreat. During the conversation she shared a simple anti-aging secret that she created. I loved it. So, I asked her if I could share it on my blog.

Judy said that many years back, she asked the Universe to give her something to use as a subliminal “button” that she could put in her mind as a trigger. This “button” would automatically alert her to reinforce her own subconscious suggestions.

She said, “The words came back to me that the letter ‘J’ appeared on more license plates than any other letter in the alphabet.” She admitted not being much of a “car person,” but that as she drove around the Tidewater area of Virginia, she noticed the letter “J” all over the place on license plates.

So she told her subconscious that every time she saw the letter “J” on a license plate, her body would be reminded that she weighs 135 and that she has the skin of an 18 year old. She then let her body take care of how this would happen.

[Note: You could easily do this technique with anything you want to outsource to your subconscious. Building wealth, finishing a song, weight loss, affirmations, etc.]

In Judy’s own words:

“Now, I’m 67 years old and even I must say that when I look at myself in the mirror, I’m doing really good. And every time I began to push the scales a little bit, my appetite just dies back. It’s been working so far.”

  • kimberly

    Very inspiring! Life has lot to offer so don’t get old..:-)

  • Lin

    I helped at a tea for the elderly at a church…and we played a game….starting by the oldest person going down…and a beautiful lady of 84 came up…sat down…and looked at everyone.

    I asked her what is her secret to staying so young? on which she replies… know..creams…and water…and so on….I said…no…what keeps you so young of heart? and she pulled back her shoulders…lift her chin up and with a smile said, “content of the mind”..xx

  • Laure

    Love the concept! The wrinkles and gray hairs don’t bother me (much). The idea of being radiant, of having an internal glow is so very appealing to me. And to me, this has nothing to do with age other than (I think) the glow comes more easily at a younger age.

    I’ve been trying to adapt it into my life since I read your post, Christine. I’d like to know if anyone besides me having a difficult time with this?!! I think it’s a really neat idea and one I want to embrace. It’s just not happening! I know pushing it is counterproductive and not really sure where the resistance is coming from. Hmmm, where’s my journal? Maybe that will help me sort this one out. As always, Christine, thanks for the thought provoking posts! ~ Laure

  • Sunset Sister

    I’m 65 – arghhhhh, it’s hard to even say! – but I look good, not good for my age, but good – how’s that for positive thinking? I’m surprised when I meet other women my age who seem to have accepted or embraced the idea that there is “no use” in trying to look good, or even nice anymore. What’s with that? Self-esteem has gotten mixed up with lack of discipline regarding nutrition, exercise, spiritual formation – oh, I sound like a nut! But I agree with THE Judy that having an age and image in your mind does a world of good for you and for those with whom you live and work and play! Thanks, Christine. I always enjoy your articles and your readers’ comments.

  • Alice

    Hi Christine,
    This is such excellent timing for me. I just finished going through menopause and my only complaint is that I seem to be gaining weight even though I am not eating more or exercising less. I love the J affirmation idea, since I ride public transportation, I will have to think of something else besides license plates.

    I think that as more boomers like me get older we are going to redefine the response to aging, in many ways that have been expressed in these comments: feeling affirmed from within rather than getting validation for looking a certain way. I find that the older I get the better I feel inside, the more comfortable in my own skin. I am 51, people say I don’t look it, but to paraphrase Gloria Steinem, this is what 51 looks like!

  • tammy

    Oh, yes-s-s-s-s!

    I was THERE! Judy continues to be my inspiration. Even sitting by her at the retreat was a blast of fun energy. And Christine’s right, she is beautiful, beautiful.

  • Caren

    I used to feel the same way as lucy – bring it on! But now I’m 42, and skin that used to be *here* is now *here*, and now… I’m not so willing to be the standard-bearer for pushing against our youth-centered culture. Not that I don’t want wrinkles, etc…. it’s just so jarring when the person in the mirror doesn’t reflect the person I feel like on the inside. It’s a lot to think about. I look at pictures of Jane Goodall, and she’s so undeniably gorgeous, with her wrinkles and grey hair. She’s also 73. Not 42. I guess as we continue to redefine what each age means, and “old age” is getting older and older, we want our face to reflect how we feel. 60 is the new 40, or something like that.

    I like the idea of that affirmation, and trigger. I think my trigger will be the word “Mama” – I’m sure I hear it hundreds of times every day! I am radiant and vital, and my body and face reflect that. (or something along those lines) (No pun intended)

  • Caryn

    What a cool idea! It sounds like the affirmations some psychologists, self-help books, etc. encourage people to use. Although I haven’t tried affirmations, I’ve heard they work really well.

  • Christine Kane

    judy (not THE judy!) I think this is what it’s all about. More energy and vitality!

    m – i agree. openness and shiny-ness are good things!

    susie – i’m not sure this is about looking “perfect” – but I do know it has a lot to do with radiating. and i remember meeting a woman in asheville who did facials – and she told me about how she’s very careful about smiling because of the wrinkles it would give her. (she was 25 at the time.) and her skin was, indeed, perfect! however, she didn’t look all that happy!

  • Susie

    It’s such an oddity how much time and effort people put into looking “perfect” and how scared folks are of getting wrinkles. I saw a headline once that read “Smiling may cause wrinkles” Oh goodness, I guess that means if we want to be “flawless” then we shouldn’t smile anymore (how sad).
    Well, I’m 25 and I have wrinkles from smiling a lot and, knowing how I got those wrinkles, makes me very grateful!

  • m

    I do agree so much that the attitudes which people carry are reflected in peoples faces. I saw a woman recently who I saw a few years ago look at least 8 years younger I think she must have relaxed and let go of alot of stuff in the interveining period.

  • themichellesmith

    Since I turned 40 my affirmation has been “I get stronger and more beautiful every day”. Even when I was recovering from injury and couldn’t exercise, I continued to affirm this desire. Now I’m running again with the magnificent Pearl (my dog). I still get carded too. Everytime it happens I make a point to notice it because some time will be the last and I’d like remember it. Happy day!

  • Judy (not THE Judy)

    Working at home, I decided to just use this idea as an affirmation. I have to say it had an amazing effect. I could feel a physical sensation as I carried the thought in my head, and I swear I felt lighter and more energetic as I then went through my day. Cool!

  • Christine Kane

    chickiepam – you look fabulous! (just like petra!)

    thanks rhei!

    hi lucy – thanks for your thoughts on this. I’ve sat and pondered what you wrote here for a while. i’m with you completely in terms of the culture, etc. I know someone who is sixty – and she has had two facelifts. And i look at her sometimes and think – i WANT you to have wrinkles and look your age! i know you’re supposed to be beautiful – but i like some age in my sixty year olds! But this wasn’t how i felt with Judy. Judy’s a professional coach and intuitive – so her wisdom is completely in tact! Her vitality and presence were the most impressive things. I think that many women see the “gated community” model of being in their sixties – and there’s just nothing inspiring about that. so, give me all the youth in the world if it keeps me out of that mindset. I don’t buy magazines anymore for the very reason you wrote. It’s one of those triggers for the former bulimic in me. But I do like a woman in her 60’s who can feel vibrant, alive, youthful – and laugh a lot!

    mags – i got carded recently and it cracked me up! maybe judy’s j’s were doing their work on me!

  • Christine Kane

    deb – you could just do it as a reminder to “hold your center.” (as opposed to thinking in terms of toxic dumping – which is a little more daunting!)

    i love that wayne dyer quote, mark. i forgot about that one.

    thanks emdot!

    janie – i had the same experience when she first told me about this. it was like, “wow! look at all the J’s!” i think she meant it to be a more subconsious “ping” rather than noticing all the J’s!

    michelle – let us know what it feels like to be 135 when you get there! ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Mags

    Very cool! I think I’m going to have to try this now that the supermarket checkout ladies no longer ask for my ID to check that I’m over 21 when I buy wine… ๐Ÿ˜‰

  • Lucy

    I weep that our culture doesn’t allow us to age. Our elders are no longer allowed to be elders. It seems as though to age is to become invisible. Where are the wise crones? We need our elders. I am saddened in the grocery aisles to see Oprah, who is in such a position of powerful elder-ship, being made into a twenty year old girl over and over again on the cover of the Oprah magazine. When does she get to settle into her age?
    When I wake in the morning, I think of the story that my face will carry someday through its lines and texture. I want it to show a story of contentment and happiness. This reminds me to smile more and seek contentment and happiness in my day to day life now so that it is visible later.

  • Rhei, writer

    I thought she already found the fountain of youth… (hehehe)

    Later, I’ll be going out to take a snack; I’m so excited to see how many plates can I see with the letter “J”. I’m so excited to picture out that I’m 5’7, 100 lbs and that I’m the most beautiful girl.
    Truly, I love what am I right now but I still wanna thank you for giving me that perspective. I’m sure it will help.

  • Petra

    I’m so impressed with Judi’s technique. And chickiepam’s friend’s eraser. What we think truly does affect how we appear. Today I felt really chic and sexy. First time in a LONG time. I met a friend for coffee and the first thing she said was “you look fabulous!”

  • ChickiePam

    I heard of another woman who uses an “eraser” on her wrinkles during her morning meditation, but I like this method better. I don’t think I look my age, but I’d like to keep it that way! I’ll have to adjust that weight thing, though. I’d have to gain weight, and I’m chubby enough already. Being vertically challenged (4’11”) means I don’t get to weigh much. I think 110 sounds nicer.

    Thanks for sharing!

  • Michelle Vandepas

    Since I read this I’ve been watching for the J’s on all the plates. Even though my name begins with M, I’ll use the J one, and set my intention to be 135 with skin of an 18 year old! Love this idea. Thanks

  • Janie

    Well, after reading this wonderful idea, I had a very distracted drive into work this morning! Lots of numbers and not so many alphas on license plates where I live ๐Ÿ™‚ I’ll make sure to listen carefully so that I can find my own “button.” Thanks for sharing!

  • emdot

    wow! i just love that. thank you so much for sharing judy’s story and secret. i was just looking for a reminder like that. christine, your blog is food for the soul. thank you for writing it. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Mark

    Whoa – that is extremely cool and inspiring!

    I draw for a living – caricatures – a lot of the time – and I’m convinced that all the fun and laughing keeps me young looking.

    Wayne Dyer often says: “Never let an old person move into your body.”

    I’m definitely going to use this concept. Thanks Christine!

  • Deb

    This is a fascinating concept. Of course I would ask God but that’s my network and not necessarily everybody else’s. I really do need a “trigger” to activate my release commitment when I’m getting a toxic dump from someone in my life who is not always well. It’s hard to remember then that the person has been abducted by their own internal alien. Thanks for sharing.