In our last episode, we learned all about how to find your passion. We learned about how you have to clear away any crap in your life for which you are settling and then mine your life for delights and present-moment happiness.
Now that we’ve done all that, let’s uncover the myths that come with this idea of finding your passion, following your bliss, and living your dreams.
[Confession: Do not think for a minute that this stuff is divinely channeled. I’ve clung at various times to each one of these myths until I finally woke the heck up and realized that following my passion was much different (and consequently much more rewarding) than I thought it would be.]
Myth #1 – “And then she lived happily ever after.”
Finding and following your passion is a process from the minute you set the intention. It’s not an event. There’s no arrival. Put on your seat belt. Enjoy the ride.
Myth #2 – That you will never doubt yourself.
I’ll let Seth Godin address this one. He says it way better than I ever could.
Myth #3 – That THIS passion will always remain THE passion.
Once you set your course for “passion,” your soul will make damn sure you’re not the settling kind. This might mean that how you define your passion will change over time. You can try to hold on and fight the new levels of discomfort that will inevitably arise from said changes, but your soul will always win.
Myth #4 – “Now that I’m here, I’d like it all to just plateau please.”
I can’t tell you how many people say this to me in one way or another after they’ve reached a certain level in their work. It’s like bargaining with biology that your life gets to be different from every other organism on the planet. As if growth ceases once you decide you’re done with the discomfort of expansion. Um, guess what?
Myth #5 – “I’ll try this passion thing for a year and see how I do.”
When I first got started in music, this was the advice I got from an older friend in my life: “You can try it for a year, and if you don’t make it – then you can just go back and get a job.” This makes me laugh now. Passion is not about dipping your toe in, and the universe knows it. (You know it too!)
Myth #6 – “I have decided to follow my passion, therefore the heavens should reward me accordingly.”
There’s a word for this. What is it again? Oh yea.
Myth #7 – That everyone will be on board.
You can always try forwarding the previous post to your friends and family with the message “See?!”
But chances are, not everyone in your life will be thrilled when you start turning things upside down. (Mostly because you will be pushing the edges of their world-view and people never like that very much.)
Myth #8 – That you will magically leave your current self behind.
Finding and living your passion doesn’t mean that some other cooler hipper version of you will magically emerge. In fact, you will run into you at every turn.
Myth #9 – That passion is big and explosive.
In my experience, passion speaks quietly.
It’s the moment your client has a breakthrough and your heart nearly explodes in excitement for her. It’s when the perfect lyric comes flying through when you’re driving home from the store. It’s when time melts away and you are present and happy. Those are the best moments.
Passion is about new levels of depth in your relationship with yourself and the things around you. The external rewards can be awesome, but nothing measures up to the quiet sparks of knowing you are living the life you were meant to live.