This is Part 4 in this series on the snarkiest (and most common) ways we misinterpret the Law of Attraction.
Quick review: The first misconception is about blame. The second misconception is making it a part time thing. The third misconception is taking it personally.
So, now we arrive at the fourth snarkiest misconception about the Law of Attraction…
#4 – Forgetting freedom
I have mentored performers and artists, both through my retreats and my e-Seminar. They’re intending success in their creative work and in their careers. Sometimes one of them gets a bad review, has a bad showcase, or doesn’t do well at an opening. She calls me in a panic. Her instant fear is that her career is over. Done. Finished. “You’ll never work in this town again!”
I don’t say anything about “attracting” this situation. I tell her the very thing that I’ve learned over and over again in similar situations:
Only you get to decide whether or not your career is over. You still have that choice. No one out there makes that choice for you. This is the ultimate freedom in your life.
When she begins to understand this, she breathes a sigh of relief.
Once she gets over the grief and the emotion of the incident, I encourage her to get back to focus. This means getting clear about who she is, and what she wants in her work. This means putting her attention on the happy feeling of success and the direction in which she is headed.
This does astonishing things to shift her energy. She is then free to look at the situation and ask herself if she created it, or attracted it and most importantly, what it can teach her.
This is one small example of one small incident, of course.
But, no matter what the incident might be, these incidents and daily choices are exactly where you can apply the Law of Attraction. It’s tempting – in so many situations – to believe that the outside world controls our destiny. It’s easy to head straight into the panic without remembering that our thoughts about the situation have enormous impact. There is always a point of choice.
If there’s one gift I’ve received from working with this principle – even with my own snarky misconceptions and resistance – it is this: The Law of Attraction is about taking responsibility for your life – your thoughts, your actions, your speech. Accepting that responsibility is pure freedom.
Pure freedom is knowing your life is in your hands – whether that be your thoughts, your actions, your translation of the situation, what you choose to believe, or what you choose to say to other people.
Pure freedom is knowing no one else can define your joy, your light, your delight, your success, and your abundance. You define those things for yourself. You choose them.
Pure freedom is knowing if you created the things that you don’t like about your life, then you can create something different. There’s only one place you need begin – inside of you.
Pure freedom is knowing that you can keep choosing this over and over again, instead of waiting for something outside of you to rescue you. You can try a different action, a different thought, a new approach.
Taking responsibility for your life is not a burden. Taking responsibility for your life is liberating. Being clear about who you want to be and what you want to do and then moving in that direction is powerful work indeed. It will teach you that the limitations you experience are more about your insides than about the world out there.
You get to choose how to think, plain and simple. It takes constant and compassionate practice, for sure. But when you start to understand the feeling of freedom, you’ll know why so many people believe in the value of this work.