My college boyfriend – an athlete and a perfectionist – would have these “flash!” moments. All of the sudden he would decide he was out of shape.
“I’m disgusting!” he would proclaim.
Then, the next morning, he would jump out of bed and run for miles and miles. As if he could catch up for a sedentary semester in one quick spell. The day after that, his body would be so sore he could barely move.
Compare that with my friend Suzi who lost over 65 pounds in one year. She made health a habit. And even after losing all that weight, she has a deliberate daily practice of health, working out, eating well, watching her mindsets and living consciously. For Suzi, it wasn’t an event. It was a system.
Now, consider any goal or dream or business idea you have.
What systems or habits or practices (different words, same outcome) do you need to put into place to create success?
Here’s how I explain this to the women I coach:
A system or habit makes you less prone to reactive thinking, to the “whinies,” to the “I don’t feel like it’s,” and to the Panicky Flash moments (like my college boyfriend used to have).
Your mantra becomes: “This is just what I do.” No big deal.
• The alarm goes off at 5am. You don’t have to ask yourself if you feel like getting up from the flannel sheets. (Of course you don’t!) You say, “This is just what I do.” No big deal. You head to the gym.
• Every Thursday evening at 6pm, you spend 30 minutes in QuickBooks, reconciling, analyzing and getting clear on your finances. This means you don’t race to your on-line banking account in a fury when you catch a piece on CNN about the economy. “This is just what I do” means you have a system, and you don’t have to react. You’ve got it covered every Thursday.
• It’s 9am and that means it’s time to spend an hour writing a blog post even though you don’t feel “inspired.” “This is just what I do” means you sit down and write. It’s part of your business. It’s a piece of your art.
• It’s 5:30pm. Time for most people to go home from work. You’ve started a network marketing business, so you stay at your desk for an hour to generate ideas and connect with contacts. “This is just what I do” means that you’re thinking long-term about your income and opportunities, rather than rushing out for a second job to get that extra cash right now. “This is just what I do” also ensures that you’ll continue the practice, rather than giving up after one or two phone calls!
If you tend to fall prey to moods, emotions, or negative thoughts, then creating systems, habits and practices will teach you more about success than success itself! Remember, the meaning of Creativity is choosing to be the Creator, not the Reactor.
When you wait until you’re inspired or until something outside of you makes you happy or until you feel terrified of the chaos in your life before you take action, then you’re creating a Domino Effect Life. A life based on Reactivity. Not Creativity.
I started this blog post with not one single idea in my head. My cat is sick, and I had to go to the vet. By the time I got home, the gremlins in my head told me the well was dry, there were no ideas left, and perhaps I’d be more inspired tomorrow.
Then, I just sat down to write.
This is just what I do.