This is a multiple-choice question.
You’ve been dating someone in your town for quite some time. This person has a work obligation in Singapore for a year, and so you begin a long-distance relationship. (If you live in Singapore, change it to New York City.) This had been in the works since you first started dating. The plan all along was that you’d take time off and visit during the year.
You get your tickets and fly to Singapore to spend three weeks with your sweetie.
It is not the exciting passionate reunion you were expecting. In fact, the love of your life actually breaks up with you. Right there in the airport.
Now, let’s go out beyond the initial shock and “what-do-I-do-now-that-I’m-in-Singapore?” decisions.
How do you deal with this situation?
A] Spend the rest of your life hating this person, rallying your friends around you in a collective anti-fan club and spewing verbal vitriol at him at every gathering, party, and phone conversation?
B] See yourself as the hapless victim of a horrible person. Ask yourself over and over again, “Why did this happen? Why me?” And spend the next three years unable to answer that question?
C] In spite of the heartbreak and hurt pride, begin to reflect on your own role in this situation, and spend time uncovering the lessons you can learn from it. In spite of occasional tears and anger, begin to see the perfection of this particular event in your life.
D] Visit GoDaddy.com and buy the domain name “[NameofEx]Sucks.com.” Start a blog and write daily about all the ways in which your ex does, in fact, suck.
The next post will be for those who might waffle between A and B – but would ultimately like to choose C – even if D sounds sort of fun…