Let’s say you’ve been intending more money in your life. And let’s say you created a vision board, you cleared clutter, and you stated new intents for wealth. And then, let’s say two months later, your aunt sends you a check for $150 out of the blue because she won some money when she visited Atlantic City last weekend.
What do you do with that?
Do you acknowledge it as part of your intent? Do you say, “Wow! How cool is that?” Or do you blow it off because it’s not big enough – or because – oh for Pete’s sake – it came from your Aunt Edna and one of her crazy trips to Atlantic City?
Would you believe me if I told you it’s crucial that you begin to acknowledge the slightest progress on your path? Can you see how the mere act of noticing “coincidences” leads to greater victories? Read on.
Coincidence or law of attraction in action?
A few years ago a friend who does feng-shui visited my record label office to help me clear and re-design the space after I had let go of an employee.
One of the many assigments she gave me was to choose some “symbol” of success and place it prominently in my office. She grilled me about that symbol. She said, “What about a Grammy award?” And I told her – in all honesty – that I don’t care that much about Grammy Awards. I added, “I like The Academy Awards better.” I told her that an external symbol of success would be an Academy Award for a song in a movie. She said, “Perfect!” We found a plastic Oscar for 10 bucks on eBay.
So, for two years now, my plastic Oscar has been sitting in my office on the IKEA cabinet.
Humorous Note: A friend saw my Oscar and said, “Ohmigod, did you win an Academy Award?!” I stared at him for a good long moment. Then I said, “It’s six inches tall. And it’s gold painted plastic. Do you REALLY think this is the same trophy that Julia Roberts has in her living room?”
I hadn’t thought much about my plastic Academy Award until this summer when I won a Telly Award for my DVD Live at the Diana Wortham Theatre. I’m not an awards kind of gal, and this is one of the first I’ve won. So, here’s the small victory: The Telly Awards are designed and created by the very same company that creates the Academy Awards. (And the Grammy awards.) Yesterday the award was delivered. It’s massive. It’s heavy. And it’s pretty, too! It stands majestically next to the six-inch Academy Award – which is now oddly majestic in its own plastic way.
Five reasons small victories matter
So, why would this kind of victory/coincidence matter? It’d be so easy to roll my eyes and say, “Yea well, it’s not an Academy Award. It’s a Telly Award. Who cares about that?” How many times do you block your own good because you won’t simply acknowledge it?
Here are 5 reasons why even the smallest victories in your process matter in a big way:
#1 – Because ALL of it – every single thing in your life – is about you.
Yes, it’s all an illusion. But it’s all your illusion. And so it’s all about you. If you don’t have money, then you have a fabulous opportunity to become a person who attracts it. If you feel rejected by men, then there’s an opportunity to heal the parts of you that create those feelings. The potential for growth is in all of your desires. And then, each little thing that shows up is actually an opening, a healing. How about that?
Bhagavan says it best in Arjuna Ardagh’s excellent book, Awakening Into Oneness,
You can materialize things; you can make them disappear. You can do anything you like because you are actually God, and you can create. People do not realize the power that they hold within themselves. Once you realize this, then it becomes child’s play.
#2 – Because when you notice small victories, you become a container for more.
Songwriters carry small notebooks so they can write down every little idea that shows up. The more you write down, the more ideas you get. You become a container where ideas get poured. You become that container by saying yes. You say yes by writing every idea down. Even the dumb ones. It’s the same thing with noticing small victories. You’re saying “yes.”
Similarly, when you turn away from your small victories, you say, “Oh stop it! I wanted it to show up how I wanted it. Not like this!” And you block the natural evolution of your intent.
#3 – Because attention is a form of gratitude. And gratitude attracts more.
#4 – Because knowing when to take action will be easier if you’ve practiced acknowledging what you’ve attracted.
A month after I intended abundance in my life, I came across a book on investing. Since I’m rarely drawn to books about investing or money, I took it as a nudge in a new direction. Fast forward a year and a half — my Roth IRA has increased by 30% because I digested and worked on the information in that book. I had to take action. But the paying attention part came first. I got good at noticing what showed up and then acting on it.
#5 – Because optimism expands and cynicism contracts.
Cellular biologist Bruce Lipton puts it this way: A cell is either growing or it is protecting itself. Growth stops when a cell contracts for protection. When that contraction becomes chronic, the cell dies. Cynicism is contraction. It’s a way of saying, “I won’t be open until you prove it.” It’s also a way of dying slowly. Instead of wasting your energy looking for proof, use your energy to expand into a more optimistic knowing place.
p.s. Takamine Guitars announced my Telly Award by posting a previously unreleased clip from the DVD. You can see it here.