Today’s guest post was written by Colleen O’Grady, licensed therapist and life coach.
“This feels selfish. I can’t invest this kind of time and money into my dreams/business. What will this do to my 12 year old daughter, especially since I am a single parent?”
I was a working mother. I worked – and was a mother, and that’s about it.
Despite my best attempts at achieving a work-life balance I was disconnected from my wise, playful, creative, passionate, and inspired self. My energy had flat lined into blah.
For fifteen years I made a steady income as a licensed therapist. Being an entrepreneur was a foreign concept to me, even though I had a private practice. I really never thought about my business. It just kind of worked out.
When I first joined Uplevel Academy, Christine would talk about the importance of being a leader in your life, and business. She would talk about living reactively vs. living intentionally.
It hit me like a ton of bricks. I was not being a leader of my life. Everyone else was driving my life, and I reacted.
And this was very true about my parenting.
A teenage drama princess had recently abducted my precious little girl. At twelve she was already taller than me and would give me a mountain of sass. I REACTED and quickly earned my crown as drama queen.
The ironic thing is that I was known as the all-wise marriage and family therapist and teenage expert. But behind closed doors I was discouraged from the non-stop drama dance.
So here’s what I did. I detached from the drama and focused my attention towards creating my business. (Yes. the amazing Uplevel Academy Platinum Mastermind community, many of whom were moms, gave me the support and inspiration to move forward.)
Six years later, I’ve created a life and business I’m completely jazzed about.
The puzzle pieces of my life came together to reveal my purpose. My transformation from reactive mom to empowered mom was the missing piece to create the Power Your Parenting program, website, e-zine, e-book and podcast.
Now, out of my therapy cave, I’m spreading my message all over the world helping moms reconnect with their teenage daughters and reclaim their life. Recently I received a book deal from a New York publisher for Dial Down the Drama.
But my greatest joy is how this has impacted my daughter.
Who knew that investing in myself would make me a better mom and transform my relationship with my daughter? Behind closed doors, I’m happy and cherishing her.
I discovered how I lived my life profoundly influenced my daughter, not my elegant mother lectures. By taking risks and challenging myself, I set a new standard for my family.
Being the leader of my life gave my daughter permission to be her own person and follow her dreams.
Months ago, I was missing her (a very busy senior). Nine-thirty at night she texted me, and asked me to get in her car. We drove off in her red beetle through downtown Houston when she said, “I was thinking, who could I talk to about this, even though you’re my mom, you’re the best person.”
“Mom I want to make a big difference in the world. I want to inspire as many people as I can to not give up on their creativity. See we’re kind of the same. You speak to lots of moms, and are writing your book. You want to change the world and so do I. I want to learn how to speak. Where would I start?”
My daughter is beginning her journey. I keep seeing signs of a budding entrepreneur. I am excited to see what unfolds for both of us.
Investing in your life is far from selfish. It positively impacts your family in ways you can’t even imagine and raises the bar for what’s possible for the next generation.
I’d love to talk about what your experience has been with this. In the comments below, share with me something you’ve felt too selfish to do, and what’s stopping you, or your great success and how you overcame the guilt around it.
Colleen O’Grady is a Licensed Therapist, and Life Coach with over 20 years of experience as well as a national speaker. She is the creator of the Power Your Parenting book and program which has now served moms from all over the country, teaching them 7 steps to get back in touch with their own voice, their own power and reconnect with their teenage daughters.